1. Your partner appears terrified
every time the "Where are we headed?" talk comes up.
It's a fair
request to ask for some clarity about where the relationship is going. You don't
want to put too much pressure on the other person, but there is nothing wrong
with trying to get a sense of where things stand. If your partner freaks out and
gets defensive whenever you bring up the subject, then he or she may not be as
invested in the relationship as you are.
That's not necessarily a problem, especially early in your time together.
But if you two have been together for a good long while and your partner still
doesn't want to even discuss the status of your relationship, then that's a
definite sign that your relationship is in jeopardy.
2. One of you constantly demands to be the center of the
relationship.
Ideally, a relationship is made up of two individuals who work
to achieve a balance. On the one hand, they each want to make sure that their
individual needs are being met. On the other hand, they want to make sacrifices
for their partner and compromise, even when it goes against their own desires.
If your partner is demanding too much attention, ordering you around, and
insisting on having his or her way every time a disagreement arises, then that's
a problem. You two are probably going to have a hard time building the kind of
respectful relationship that allows for maximum personal and relational growth
if one of you refuses to compromise and sacrifice.
3. The focus is on what's wrong rather than
right.When you two talk about how things are going between you, do you
seem to always end up trying to address problems? If so, your relationship might
be in trouble. This isn't to say that you shouldn't address relational
obstacles. Even the healthiest relationships face conflict and struggle from
time to time. And, of course, you two should try to resolve whatever
difficulties you face together. But if it seems that all you ever do when you
talk about your relationship is solve problems and overcome difficulties, as
opposed to enjoying each other's company and laughing together, then something
may not be quite right between you.
4.
Conflict has made itself a permanent part of your relationship.
Again,
there's nothing wrong with arguing. All couples do. And conflict, when it's
handled in a way that is respectful, can actually be good for a relationship.
But if you feel that all you and your partner do is argue, that's a problem. A
healthy relationship is full of laughter, gratitude, kindness, and respect. If
conflict is crowding out all these elements and leaving you with nothing but
constant squabbling, then it's going to be tough to build a meaningful and
fulfilling relationship.
5. One of you
deals with frequent jealousy.
There has to be a high level of trust
for any relationship to work. Both people need to know that when they aren't
together, they don't have to worry about what the other person is up to. If you
find yourself always wondering if your partner is being true, then that will be
a huge hurdle for your relationship to overcome. Likewise, if your partner
refuses to trust you even though you have given him or her no reason to doubt
you, that's another sign that the relationship isn't headed in a promising
direction.
6. One of you is feeling less
and less invested in spending time together.
There are going to be
times when one of you legitimately has to spend extra time at work or on some
other type of project. And there will be times when you'll spend time with other
friends and your family. But if an ongoing pattern emerges where your
significant other is repeatedly choosing to spend more time with his or her
friends than with you, or to put in more time than necessary at work, it could
be a warning sign. When all kinds of distractions continually pull your partner
away, there's a good chance that those distractions have become more important
in your partner's mind than you are.
7.
One of you isn't feeling supported.
Constant (or even frequent)
criticism is one of the most obvious signs that a relationship is in trouble. It
can really wear you down to hear over and over again that you should dress
differently, avoid making a certain type of joke, or act a certain way when
you're with a certain group of friends. And it's just as hard on a relationship.
Constant criticism is often a sign of underlying anger or insecurity-neither of
which makes a relationship work well. If you continually harp on the negative
characteristics of each other, leaving out all the positive qualities you each
possess, then it's going to be hard for the relationship to succeed.
( an article from eharmony)
If you would like to discuss your relationship further,give me a call,I am
very good getting into their heads and helping to navigate that as you
know!
Auroealis