Love is a important part of the life experience. We as humans, desire it, crave it, need it, & obsess over it.
Well 1st, lets look at what true unconditional love really is... True love is when you love someone so truely that you want whats absolutely best for them. Whether that is you or someone else. Sometimes it is letting someone go so they can grow & flourish with out you. Other times it is standing by ones side through the good & incomprehensible.
I know many of you out there, has experienced the traumatic hurt of your partner having cheated on you.
The one person whom you loved & cherished more then anyone or anything has ripped your heart out by seeing another.
Even though most who has been cheated on has gone through this tremendous pain theirselves. They then turn around and become the cheater, or the other woman / man in someone elses relationship.
Even though we have already first hand felt the pain this does cause for the other party involved, We still do it. I am not innocent of this offense in the past.
Yet,you have to ask yourself,if you do not like being put through such a hideous pain of your partner cheating on you. Then why would you yourself even want the slightest responsibility of causing another person such a devastating hurt?
I feel this last time I was hurt so bad by my partner & my supossed best freind,cheating behind my back with one another has finally taught me a great lesson. That lesson is that no matter what your excuse is crossing the line of infidelity is never right. There are certain lines that you just do not cross.
We have to learn boundaries & respect not only for oursleves but others as well. I am hoping that this blog won't be taken as being preachy. This is my experience with infidelity. This is my lesson which I have learned through being on both sides of the fence.
I am writing this in hope to maybe save some from going through this heart ache, & maybe keep some from creating this type of gut wrenching heart ache for someone else.
Remember, to err is human, but to forgive is divine.
I hope most find this useful and learn by my mistakes. At the very least start thinking about what I have said, causing you to think twice before you are the one who causes another this terrible, gut wrenching, devastating unnessesary pain. That can be kept from occuring just by either keeping your legs closed or by keeping your pants on.
Respect not only others, but, yourself as well. Find a love for your very own. Leave someone elses alone.
May everyone find peace, love & happiness within theirself & with another. Just make sure that the love you find, does'nt already belong to another.
Love Christine