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Are All the Good Ones Gone?

I once read an article stating that women between the ages of 35 to 50 had as much chance of finding a partner as an 90 year old did, due to the fact that single women outnumber single men considerably.

What does such a statistic mean? Nothing. Unless of course you are interested in pairing up every single female with every single male. All such statistics do is cement the erroneous idea that it’s about numbers. It isn’t – it’s about attitude.

Most likely the demographics are different where you live, but chances are the mindset will be the same – there just aren’t enough suitable singles around.

I meet this resistance time and time again from clients looking for a little romance in their life or the perfect partner; that everyone is either married, unsuitable or has too much baggage.

I don’t believe that to be so. The fact is, it often comes out of the mouth of an eligible, suitable and available single. What I do believe, however, is that such mindsets easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe good potential partners are scarce, they will be.

Thing is, all anyone needs to find is one person. Instead of looking out for that one elusive person and having a scarcity mentality, practice living life on track instead. Go about your life, confident in the fact that it’s only a matter of time before that one person crosses your busy, abundant path. What we choose to focus and put our energy into obviously has a much higher chance of becoming a reality.

That mindset serves a far more worthwhile purpose. It opens doors, attracts positive like-minded people toward you, and means that life is fun and full in the meantime.

That’s far more likely to catch the attention of an eligible, suitable partner. And you only need to catch the eye of one!

 

Melody “Lil Mel”

 

Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Advisor

Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching

 

I will be available throughout the morning and early afternoon to take your calls.  Additionally I will be back on later this evening.  Please feel free to place a callback to ensure we connect.

Published Wednesday, May 07, 2008 6:45 AM by Advisor Lil Mel

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# re: Are All the Good Ones Gone? @ Wednesday, May 07, 2008 5:23 AM

Dear Mel:
This is a great blog and I hope that your message gets through to the clients we have that have given up in despair of ever having a relationship in their life.  So many women have relayed to me that they really don't believe there is any chance for happiness for them because they are over 40 or 50 etc.  They believe there is no one out there but yet my male callers who are searching are in the same despair.  Perhaps we ought to start a matchmaking service!  All joking aside I know that when you change your attitude and get on with the excitement of life that love will come when you least expect it.  I have witnessed this time after time.  Thanks again for putting it is such a great perspective.  Blessings to you

Rosie

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# re: Are All the Good Ones Gone? @ Wednesday, May 07, 2008 5:37 AM

Rosie,

Thanks for your comments as I value your insight very much!

As a long time single person...

I truly believe that it is much better to get on with the business of living and living life to the fullest, than to "sit" and grow stagnet awhiling for the perfect partner to come along.

While living life I have met some wonderfully interesting people, although I have YET to connect with a lifemate, I have been enjoying indulging in the buffet of life along the way! :)

Have a wonderful day!

Melody "Lil Mel"

Advisor Lil Mel

# re: Are All the Good Ones Gone? @ Wednesday, May 07, 2008 7:34 AM

I read another article somewhere that the so-called statistic that you refer to was created on the assumption that the average woman will marry a man 3 years older than she is.  They then tracked the birth rates of the baby-boom years, when, from the years 1946 to 1964, the birth rate increased each year.  The conclusion was that because there were more women born 3 years later in any given year, there would not be enough men who were 3 years older, therefore there would be a 'shortage' of potential husbands.

What the authors of this study did not say was that if a woman was looking for a man YOUNGER than she there would be plenty more to choose from. In fact, there would be more men who were 3 years younger than women her age.  

My advice, ladies, would be to go out and look for those younger men. No shortage there, and they're probably a lot more fun!

'Marina'

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