CREATING A PERSONAL IDENTITY: Defining Who You Are
What you believe about yourself defines who you are. Any habitual pattern of thinking is called a belief; about yourself, others, and the world around you. These beliefs are the elements which create your reality and determine how you respond to the world around you.
Most of these beliefs stem from non-rational beliefs leftover from childhood. The beauty of this is that we all have the power within and freedom to change and update our beliefs. You can literally change your mind! When you exercise the freedom to change your patterns of thinking, when you consciously alter your beliefs and how you view the world, you transform your life!
Below are examples of a few common childhood beliefs that when acted upon can cause great stress:
- If I don’t please people, they may choose to reject, criticize, or abandon me.
- I must be perfect, completely competent, and consistent, in everything I do.
- I need someone or something stronger than myself to rely on.
- I am not smart enough to become a doctor, lawyer, musician, accountant, or anything else I believe is above me.
- I am not attractive enough.
- I need to earn hundreds of thousands of dollars in order to be happy.
Do any of these sound familiar? Do you have any of these non-rational beliefs left over from childhood? Conduct a quick mental assessment, are some of these beliefs lingering and cluttered up your emotional closet? Understanding that you control the beliefs you hold about yourself is the first step in changing and updating your belief system.
Make a pact with yourself to start 2008 with a clean slate, clear the way for all the wonderful things coming your way--don't clutter up your emotional closet with leftover non-rational beliefs. Consciously shift your belief system and form a personal identify that will empower you to make healthy life choices.
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Blessings,
Melody “Lil Mel”
Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Advisor
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