Breaking Free from a Bad Relationship
When is it time to release someone you love? That is the most difficult thing you'll ever do in life-but there may come a time it is necessary to let go of someone. How do you know when that time has come? You may resist doing so-but setting someone free is learning that real love doesn't mean holding onto someone who cannot return what you need.
In relationships and readings the most common question I hear is 'Will he/she ever change?" The usual response to this from myself is NO. Most people wanting to see someone change really don't realize it is a situation they must change 'for themselves'! If the mate or partner has suddenly become jealous, cancels dates or their behavior doesn't make sense to you-there IS something wrong! But it can be SO difficult to try to understand a partner who suddenly acts like a total stranger! It can happen in any relationship-even ones that have went on for 2 or more years. During this time-the innocent partner who feels estranged tries desperately to figure what 'I did wrong'-when usually they did absolutely nothing at all! They try to make sense of what has happened-and 9 times out of 10 begin to THINK their partner is cheating-or accusations of doing just that! They become insecure, angry and can panic-and their imagination begins to run wild out of fear. It can be very hard to admit you no longer feel 'loved'!
When IS it time to walk away and KNOW it is time to face the Truth?
1. - When you find yourself questioning everything your partner does and says-and you begin to feel happier around other people at work and miserable at the thought of seeing your mate at the end of the day!
2.- When you begin snooping through their private emails, tracking every cellphone call, and internet activities-and begin to lash out at them in a rage! You're really then just LOOKING for something to accuse them of-out of fear you're losing them to someone else!
3.- When the person begins to play the blame game-nothing you DO or SAY is ever good enough-and you feel helpless and feel you're not 'good enough' so you don't deserve 'their love'!
4.-When you find the moments you spend with them are in complete silence-because you're too afraid to talk to them out of FEAR-you'll upset them or make them angry!
5.-When you begin to feel you really ARE dating and/or living with a total stranger who doesn't care about happiness-yours OR theirs!
6.-When you feel you're doing ALL the right things and really trying to make things better-and nothing ever changes-but seems to get worse!
7.-When you finally can admit you are not happy, are not being given respect OR love-it IS time to admit the truth to yourself and the mate!
Then comes the difficult part-making a decision it truly is over-you know it is-but they don't want to hear it! This is the hard part of realizing you've come to a part of life that we all face-a time to release ourselves from a dead-end relationship, But also it IS a time to move on-to heal and to eventually love and be loved in return with someone who can fill your heart with joy! You must also make it a 'clean break'-meaning no more contact-so you can not be bombarded with more negative words that try to make you feel guilty OR regrets. Making a decision to stick with what you say is a MUST to be able to move on. Just realize that you can!
Is it difficult to end a bad relationship? YES-it can be-because it was your 'security blanket' for so long-even though it may have been a bad relationship! It means cleaning out things, getting rid of pictures and making a promise to yourself-to stick with it!
The good news is...
You CAN do it-you have just made a life decision to become a happier 'YOU' and that can be an awesome feeling of release! You are setting yourself FREE knowing life has many wonderful people who will want to embrace who you are! Just like a butterfly-you'll find yourself shedding a sheltered 'cocoon'-so you can break free and spread your wings!
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