The Power of Your Words
How often do we speak words without thinking? Very often! BUT-do we really think about the 'consequences' of what we say-on a DAILY basis-not only to friends-but family, strangers and co-workers and employers? IF we are honest with ourselves-most of the time we'd say sometimes OR not at all!
Communication is the one and only 'tool' we have to speak our feelings and opinions about anything. There is a saying about "The Power of The Tongue"-and how it can quickly become the one part of our body that can be unruly and untamed-IF we don't think about how we speak or talk to others. We can speak words of anger-when they are not necessary-and words of compassion when least deserved by others. How we communicate is something 'everyone' must work on-on a daily basis-as it is truly the one tool in life we can use to our advantage or our ruin! This can include relationships with your mate or your spouse-when a heated 'argument' starts-how do you react-does it become a 'blame game' or a time you can 'bite the bullet' and think before you speak? Most of the time couples want to 'get in the 'last word'-or feel they have to and aren't happy if they do not. There is always a time to "WALK AWAY"-after listening-and knowing you want to 'plow into them with outright rage or maybe 'justified anger'! Same thing with your co-workers/employers who may get on your last freaking nerve-who you KNOW just seem to 'get on your nerves with unnecessary comments'-and you may not say a word-but you ALLOW it to set your 'tone for the workday'-and later go home and take it our on your mate or spouse who stares asking, "What did "I DO!? Can we 'change how we 'talk or communicate' and really learn how not to over-react TO others words? YES WE CAN-but it does not happen overnight! Listening to others is a 'skill'-one that comes only with discipline and time.
Most of the time - people 'hear only what they WANT to hear'-and if there is anything that 'sounds like criticism' in the words-we tend not to hear anything else-beyond that point-and stop listening. Some people want to hear only 'pleasant words'-and cannot handle 'criticism' from anyone-and take it as a personal 'offense' when it may not be intended that way. How do we change how we talk and how we 'listen'? It begins with our mornings-focusing on good thoughts and intentions that will set the tone for our day. That does NOT mean-others won't cause 'conflict' or speak words we disagree with - BUT it does mean we have the ability to NOT absorb every word of negative garbage thrown in our direction-but rather know how to shield ourselves and remain calm. We will set the tone for our thinking, and also how we reflect back to others in words spoken carefully-not returning anger and hostility back even if well deserved! Psychologists have discovered for EACH negative word people hear in their lives-especially that are 'abusive' and/or cruel-it takes 5-10 YEARS for inner healing for EACH incident this happens-especially females! This also includes how we talk TO ourselves!
I could go on forever on this article-but will not-but WILL leave you with a thought for today.
Have you ever said something you regretted
OR wished you had not said later?
Remember-words are the most powerful AND creative force you have-take responsibility for EACH word you speak and remember you cannot ever take back 'negative words'-or how they will affect your life AND the lives of those you encounter the REST of their lives. WHAT you say today OR tomorrow--just could be the 'LAST WORDS' another person may ever 'hear'--so remember this the next time you speak and you won't have 'regrets' over words you can never take back!"Good words are worth much, and cost little."
- George Herbert