Valentines Day Message for YOU!
Today is that special day-February 14th-a day for celebrating LOVE!
But is it just meant for 'couples'? OR can it be a day just for you to
reflect on what love IS and is NOT!
If you are in a relationship
or marriage-make a decision 'just for today'-to find something in your
loved one that you are thankful for and TELL THEM!
Try to find
something GOOD in the person - if you are at odds or holding a grudge
or resentment towards them for something they did. Maybe it is time to
let go and forgive that wrong and start over! IF you are separated and
and WANT to reconcile your marriage-know that it is up to you AND your
partner both to consider counseling to figure out what happened AND
what you can both to do make changes in yourselves to start over fresh. This means setting boundaries, learning NEW ways to communicate with each other and what it is your partner NEEDS from you!
It's
not about FINDING the 'right partner' in our lives-it's about BECOMING
the right one-no matter if you are married OR single-and wondering what
"LOVE" means!Perhaps you are like millions of American
males and females today-separated or divorced and you feel alone. Do
find yourself clinging to memories of the past today? Did you lose
your mate to divorce or even death-and can't seem to 'move on' beyond
grieving-and find it easier to live with 'good memories' of the
'past'? If so-maybe it is time to admit that living in past memories
is easier than letting go, and time to ask SPIRIT to heal your wounded
spirit and heart.
Letting GO of someone who is no longer there is
NOT easy-but dwelling in the 'past'-is not healthy either for mind,
spirit, soul or body. Cherish OLD memories-but also be willing to pack them 'away' in your heart, clean out old things-and be open to
the new people who can want to get to know you-and open up your heart to others again. Maybe it's time.
Life
is about taking risks-and loving someone new-means letting go, healing
and allowing your heart to open up to others who would love to share
being a part of your life and discovering that you can love again!
Let
today begin a day of healing within your heart and mind-and celebrate
it with a friend or relatives-and announce that today is the day you
have made peace with the past-and need their support!If you
would rather spend the day alone-treat yourself to a good meal, rent a
new comedy and later make a list of things to 'clean out' of your home
that are everyday reminders from the past with an ex. Mark a day on
your calendar on a day off-when you can clean out closets, drawers and
box up old pictures and do a 'spring cleaning'.
It is harder
holding on to someone who cannot return your love-than to start letting
go of those old memories and feel released from the past.Or
perhaps you are holding 'out'-waiting for the 'one you love' to be with
you-but they are with someone else today (spouse/lover*).
Just for
today--think seriously about 'all' the Valentine Days you've spent
alone and ask yourself WHY and for how much longer? Your life and your
time are precious!More importantly-ask yourself-'What am 'I" worth'???
Being
single or alone is not a sin-it only becomes one when we allow the fear
of being alone to control our lives and start to make wrong choices
just to have someone in our life! Maybe you haven't thought that
your
time is all you'll ever have-are you spending it wisely or is this
REALLY worth waiting for and for how much longer do you put YOUR life
on hold!The message I hope you have gotten from all of the above is this..
YOU are special and YOU deserve to be loved and to give back
love to those who truly do love and need you!
Make THIS Valentines Day the one day you find meaning in who you are-
and STOP being afraid to rediscover the meaning of 'REAL LOVE'!
Have a wonderful week!