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Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship


A lot of people are 'looking for love' these days if they are single!  How do you determine IF the person may be 'poison'-someone who you need to avoid at ALL costs?   There are several  clear 'warning signs'-here's a list of them!

Anyone who embarrasses you in front of others or makes fun of you in any way or makes you feel belittled or ignored.

Anyone who wants to always be in control, of money (especially if it is YOUR money*) and also who you can have as friends,

Anyone who is abusive (emotionally or physical*),  or you find yourself giving up freedom of any kind-especially things you enjoy.

Anyone who stays offended, won't speak or talk when angered, who's lied to you or caught them lying to others, or cheated.

Anyone who pretends something never happened when you know it did or denies something they told you or changes their stories.

Anyone who's dependent on you for everything- and gets angry when they don't get what they want, treats you like a child instead of an adult.

Anyone who causes you to be in constant fear by threats to walk away or leave you, leaves you in confusion or feeling resentment more than happiness.

Anyone who tries to throw the blame back on you for something they did wrong, makes accusations that have no grounds.

Anyone who always excuses their own mistakes and never owns up to being in the wrong,  throws a temper tantrum or just walks away and won't talk.

Anyone who leaves you wondering if you are truly loved or are beginning to question if they care for you, are afraid to express your own opinion or afraid to disagree with theirs.

Anyone who doesn't want to hear anything that conflicts with their own opinions,  makes more time friends than for you,  avoids participation when invited to be with your friends and family.

Anyone who doesn't show interest in your needs and happiness,  you are too afraid to speak up or express your own feelings afraid of being made fun of, no longer shows you respect for your feelings and happiness.

Remember a relationship should be one where you feel love and respect-at ALL times!  NO relationship is 'perfect'-no person is-but do not ever 'compromise yourself' for anyone-it's never worth it no matter how much you 'think' you may love someone!   If you question IF a person is the right one for you-you probably already know the answer.  Always listen to and honor your OWN intuition!

"An intimate relationship does not banish loneliness.
Only when we are comfortable with who we are can we
truly function independently in a healthy way,
can we truly function within a relationship.
Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to
a healthy relationship: it take two wholes."

~Patricia Fry~

Thank you for reading this blog. 

Comments are always welcomed!
Published Thursday, September 30, 2010 10:38 AM by Amoonsmaiden
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# re: Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship

I'm single . . . and I am finally NOT looking for love . . . I have FINALLY found nirvana within me!  It is so wonderful!  No more drama!

But that doesn't mean there won't be another relationship around the corner . . . as about the time one feels content, another challenge comes along in this evolution called life.
Thursday, September 30, 2010 8:44 AM by Little White Witch

# re: Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Good for you Ronda!   Thanks for the post.  A lot of people have found that same thing-BUT unfortunately a lot of females and men are still seeking out that 'special mate'.   Hopefully this article will enlighten them there are clear warning signs that they'll take heed of-AND if in the 'wrong relationship'--at least finally have the guts to acknowledge it and move on with their life-finding that same 'nirvana' in solitude to heal until they do want to find the right one!  *S*
Thursday, September 30, 2010 9:05 AM by Amoonsmaiden

# re: Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship

When you feel "right" with yourself, then you will have the right to stand up for yourself, and not tolerate any of these red flags.  It is interesting to me, as I read these red flags that I would have ever even tolerated any of that kind of behavior before . . .

Now there is no need to be vigilant of red flags, there is no connection with anyone to have to be vigilant about . . . just be happy with being "right" with me . . .

I guess that is what I wish people would realize, and what I have learned, if your right with yourself . . . the right person will show up at the "right" time.
Thursday, September 30, 2010 2:49 PM by Little White Witch

# re: Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Agreed Ronda!  Nobody is happy with anyone until they learn to be content with themselves.  
Thursday, September 30, 2010 4:46 PM by Amoonsmaiden

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