Why REAL Men Say They Won't Commit!
The below is taken from an anonymous survey I took-from REAL men-how they view commitment-and what are the reasons they avoid it-AND what women need to know!
This IS an informative must-read article-based on men all ages-20-50! Names have been changed due to privacy reasons!
Allen-"I love to just be open to whatever clicks for me at the moment. I want variety in my relationships-meaning I love different types of women for different reasons-and I see nothing wrong with that! It is cool to me to just have a chick to hang out with though on a regular basis. Commitment isn't for me-as I like my freedom-to chose who I want to date-and like being confined to 'one woman'!
Jonathan-"Personally I avoid commitment-and am afraid of getting hurt as to why- I have been burned in the past- by many females-so main reason for me-FEAR!
Peter-"I gave my 'all' to one female in what I thought was a 'commited relationship'. The woman I cared for walked out on me regardless-of all I had given her and the energy I put into this relationship. I don't have the heart to try it again-I'd rather be single!"
Tom-"Women always look 'hard at a man' but don't take the time to look at THEMSELVES in a commited relationship. I've had 3 relationships in which I thought was a total commitment. One female became cold and controlling-wanting to watch every move I made-every place I went to-and became insecure and jealous. The second female gave me a STD-never even told me she had one! As for the 3rd-another control freak-and then I'd had it! I finally decided I wouldn't ever get screwed again-not in that way-ever! I tried commitment-and gave it-it didn't work-so I gave up!"
Charlie-"Women change once they feel the relationship is a 'commitment'! They do things they never did before and stopped doing what they did that won my attention in the first place!"
Andy-"Women can put on the biggest 'front' when they WANT a man-but then when you give into what you THINK they want-they can turn a 180 degree turn-and become a stranger you never knew! Women can be very misleading to a man when all we want to have is someone who doesn't change personalities because of that word-COMMITMENT!"
Walter-"What most women do not know is 'some men' (note I said SOME*)will string a female along just because they enjoy her companionship but most of all the SEX--AND they will NOT let a woman know for them it is not 'serious' and some women think "OH -just because he is having so much 'fun' with me--he MUST be committed to me 'only'!! Women need to make it plain what they DO and do not want-or at least speak up about it! For most men-the word COMMITMENT will stop this-and keep them from 'assuming' what they THINK the man is doing' versus what he 'IS doing'!"
Randy-"I gave up the commitment thing when I realized women wanted to 'control me' everything-where I went to, who I talked to! After that to me it was no longer about commitment-this is about CONTROL-and women just need to get it-you cannot CONTROL a man-and make him into a puppet to do whatever you want and the constant pressure that puts on a man-is beyond ridiculous! Isn't it supposed to be about ACCEPTANCE of who a person is-BEFORE you got commited to that person?"
Carl-"Personally I just don't want commitment-been hurt so many times-can't see it. I don't know what the answer is about love and commitment-I'll just say this...-"Let chemistry develop-see if it 'holds' and then-give it time-LOTS of time! Women want it-but want it 'NOW"-always in a rush! Most ALL men can sense this coming-and won't hang around for long!"
George-"I gave it up because of women trying to control my LIFE--telling me I can't do 'what I USED to do before I even met them. I mean come on--I have always been a flirt in life--that won't change-I got to be myself-isn't that what attracts a woman TO a guy! I mean come on--Flirting is ok--I'm human! I mean you got to accept ALL of who a man is and HOW he is when you MEET em--or best to forget him!"
Marvin-"Commitment? I been there done that-I trusted the woman I met--she had a no count man and I tried to help her out--took her and her 2 kids into my own home fed em, clothed em etc. I felt sorry for her-but really cared too and what happened? She cheated on me! I mean -I am SO afraid to trust again-scared of getting burned isn't the word!" And women wonder why men won't commit..ask a few of us--we can tell you why!"
Don-"Here's how it is--NO man wants to be pressured into anything in life. If a woman has any sense about her she'll do 2 things-find out about the mans' background-what they've been through in life, been taught in life by parents-but mainly also the "Dads history" and track record. What they have been taught and seen in life-once you know--you'll know IF you should withdraw in any relationship--depending on if he been through too much-and how he deals with life in general."
Julian-"Been hurt a lot-burnt many times--commitment? Yeh maybe one day...A real man will come to a real woman though in time if they truly love her-but it takes time..lots of time...and absolute trust.
What do all these stories contain in common?? The fact that MOST men hurt as badly as women-and want to trust-and have-and been let down. Will some of these same men ever 'find love again' or even want to? I hope so. For now-I hope at least this article has taught every woman SOMETHING--especially this...
MEN want TOTAL acceptance, honesty, respect and trust.
The same things women SAY that they want!