Women who Love and Men who Cheat
I've been hearing all kinds of things from females on love and men. The most asked 'questions' are "Does he love me?" OR "Is he cheating" AND "Should I end it"? It all depends ON two things-YOU and the MAN!
If you have been with a man for at least 4-5 MONTHS--and don't have a clue if he is in love with you-something is definitely 'wrong'! Most men do hesitate to speak those crucial words ALL women want to hear--"I LOVE YOU." Given time IF a man is truly IN love he will SAY it-mumble it, whisper it in a moment of passion but not quickly. Most men are 'reserved' in speaking those words quickly-and may BE reluctant but it shouldn't take a man 'months' to get out what he 'feels' verbally. IF after 5 months-you're still wondering "Does he LOVE me?" you are probably going to be sitting around for 5 MORE months-wasting your time and then calling every psychic reader on every single network-asking them the same question.
Ladies-KNOW that men think LOGICALLY-compared to the female sex who think EMOTIONALLY.
We as women can rattle off 10,000 WORDS A DAY-compared to a man! Ask ANY man if his wife or mate has a problem talking? *S* Just know that love must GROW in time--but set some boundaries about how MUCH time YOU think is enough and fair! IF a man cannot communicate words easily-just be aware that THIS probably will not change-and neither will he! This is when only YOU can decide if it is worth staying in!
As for "Is he cheating on me"-there are several things women need to think about!#1 IF he is cheating-you will see signs of it-(late from work lately, suddenly dresses differently, your SEX LIFE changes and he seems to have lost interest in it, he hides phone numbers and then you hear him whispering on his cell to his "Mother"?!*) ALL of these are indeed SIGNS you have a cheating mate!
#2 Has he lost all interest in things you do together-and always has an 'excuse' or prefers to go out with 'the guys'-and comes home late every time he does?
#3 Are you so distrustful because he HAS cheated on you once before and you just cannot seem to let it GO?
Cheating is something that happens in relationships.
Most women do not want to admit to themselves it may be happening. They excuse their mates behavior and blame his lack of interest in everything from 'stress at work' to working too much!
Whenever a mates behavior CHANGES-and you KNOW it has-don't avoid talking TO the mate about it! Do not allow fear of what you DON'T WANT TO KNOW-stop you from talking to them! Whenever a mate feels they cannot communicate their most private feelings, including fears-they have a problem already!
If you suspect your mate is cheating--don't sit around worrying and wondering-TALK TO THEM! IF they refuse to talk or listen-seek objective persons who will! Just remember-cheater or NOT-you can always change PARTNERS-but still may find something you do NOT like in another person or in their behavior!
No-one is perfect-and relationships take work and time-it does not happen overnight or in a year or so!
Relationships are built on several things-COMMUNICATION, RESPECT AND TRUST! Whenever ANY one of these is 'abused or neglected'-so is the relationship! If your relationship is in trouble-don't be afraid to at least TALK TO your mate-and IF he refuses to talk-find someone to talk TO-like a qualifed counselor! There is no need to sit wondering, worrying day after day-if you feel your love is not where it should be!
The worse mistake you CAN make is talking to FAMILY about problems with your mate-even though it may be tempting to confide in them! Just know IF you do so--and word EVER gets back to you mate-they'll never feel comfortable being AROUND your family OR friends! Also-your personal feelings are yours alone--but family members can be judgemental and not realize their OWN behavior suddenly can seem cold towards your mate!
Find qualified people to talk to if you must BUT use wisdom about WHO you confide in about your personal life or mate! Also do NOT believe 'hearsay', meaning "so and so SAID'...I saw your MAN talking to this WOMAN, blah, blah blahhh!!!!
Who are YOU going to trust when people gossip about the person you LOVE? Think twice before accusing anyone of cheating-UNLESS you got PROOF! Women can get so insecure when they 'wonder what "IF"-they start to read 'his emails', check his 'cellphone', trace the calls back-then sit and STEW mad, want to kick the dog, but never ONCE say a blessed WORD to the very PERSON they are angry WITH!
What kind of sense does THAT make?? NONE!
If you love someone - you TALK TO THEM-you TRUST THEM-you ACCEPT THEM-but also you must BELIEVE IN THEM!IF any of the above listed has stopped--it's time for YOU to consider who really has issues about cheating-your mate OR yourself!Take care of your relationship-learn to communicate your feelings. IF you have a mate who DID cheat-forgive them AND forget it if you chose to STAY! Allow yourself time to heal but know you cannot remain in a ANY relationship without TOTAL TRUST-which takes time once it's been betrayed. If you truly love your mate-focus on the future the two of you CAN have together-and stop focusing on past mistakes. Leave it where it belongs-behind you both!
Love IS a risk-Life is a Risk-but BOTH are worth fighting FOR!