Workaholic Couples and How to Cope!
Are you married to OR live with a mate who has more than 1 job-and you also work possibly different hours also? How do you make this type of marriage or relationship work OR can it be done? Difficult yes-impossible-NO!
There are MANY women whose spouse/mate may work 2 jobs sometimes more-AND they work also sometimes long hours on different a schedule or shifts? Usually the male has taken on more than 1 job-sometimes working 7 days a week-some part-time shifts and then others fulltime to compensate to pay bills or to take the edge off of huge bills/debts. The female works long hours usually 1st or 2nd shift-and they rarely get to SEE their mates-due to conflicting work schedules! SOME of these couples also have kids-and the male may working several jobs just to make ends meet. The toll this kind of situation can be very stressful to ANY couples' relationship-due to having little to NO time together. Are there things a couple can DO to help make this kind of situation tolerable or better? Do you find yourself overworked, stressed-out as a couple and have constant anger towards each other?
#1. Make a plan to text message your better half on lunch break OR better yet pack up a lunch and surprise your partner by dropping off a lunch or meal.
#2. Set a set time to text message OR call your partner-when they're on a break just to say hello and see how things are going at their job.
#3. Make a meal of HOT leftovers-some goodies in the fridge-if they don't come home until late nights-so they can reheat some REAL food-put out snacks etc.!
#4. Make a cork board/calendar and post ALL BILLS/things that must be PAID--and keep this updated weekly-what bills are due and when-so you do NOT have to spend or waste time discussing money AND bills on your time off together. Eliminate any issues by dealing with them where money and financial issues are NOT part of your conversations on your time spent together!
#5. Make time to set a 'date night'/a night where you BOTH can get time off from work at least ONCE A MONTH--and get a sitter for the kids-and make it 'your night'-go out to your fav restaurant-then go splurge going dutch on getting a COZY hotel room booked-where you can unwind, relax and renew your love and lovelife leaving the work issues and other problems at HOME behind you! This is YOUR night-make it special - with a good meal decorate the room beforehand-with scented candles and your favorite music and invest in a bottle of Kama Sutra oils for a sensuous massage-you both DESERVE it! Renew AND spice up your love life-focus on your partner!
#5. When you pack a lunch for your male partner-slip some 'notes' into his lunch bag, his pockets-tell him how GREAT he is and how much you appreciate him for all he does-and watch him come home with a smile! You will set the the tone for his 'day'!
#7. When you both have 'evenings off'/even if on ONE weeknight-get the kids off to bed early-and make it a 'special NIGHT'-and vow not to discuss problems with the kids, work or the bills that you have. Talk to your kids - put cork or chalk boards in their rooms-ask them to write down what they NEED to talk about/VENT over and make a point of having at least ONE family night to just 'sit, talk and listen.' Let them know YOU care-and and will listen!
#8. Remind yourself that any relationship is built on 3 things, HONESTY, TRUST AND RESPECT-that is especially for those who work crazy hours. Ladies, do NOT allow insecurities and resentments to build-or creep when your MAN is spending long hours at work! Be thankful and praise him that he DOES take responsibility for taking care of home and bills AND provides for you-let him know how much you appreciate him-EVERY day. Remember-what you're willing to DO for your partner-will eventually RETURN to YOU!
Couple who work crazy conflicting hours-MUST make time for themselves! Money WILL pay the bills-but it won't buy a healthy partnership! Nurture yourselves-and take care of each others 'needs' -in the long run you'll find you can cope with 'all the rest'!
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