Rules To Live By

     These are all rules that are good to live by, and while the picture is not created by me, I have learned through the course of life how to live healthy.

      I didn't learn this from my upbringing of course.  I learned this from my foster parents who are the soul contributors of showing me what a true family felt like.

     These are all rules that are good to live by, and while the picture is not created by me, I have learned through the course of life how to live healthy.

      I didn't learn this from my upbringing of course.  I learned this from my foster parents who are the soul contributors of showing me what a true family felt like.

     I have been through a lot in life, and yet, I don't regret one moment of any of these experiences for one reason.  To be the spiritual counselor that I am today, it's not just the gift that makes me good.  It's the fact that I understand and can feel your pain because chances are, I have been through it.

     Eventually, over time, you will come to understand why I know so much just from my posts, but it will have to be one story at a time, because I fear I would be 90 years old before the stories have been completed.

     I like the rule that states the most important sex organ is the brain.  That is so true, because it's our mind that stimulates us, which means if we don't have someone, we can always have brain sex, huh?  ;)  J/K

     Oh, too cute, there is a rule on here I already apply to my own life.  I have told everyone who knows me, if you hear a rumor about me, don't share it.  I don't want to know what anyone said because I can't change anything, and I have to laugh because there's a rumor, you aren't supposed to listen to stuff about yourself.  At least I live in a world that isn't as cruel as some people may be experiencing it because of this rule.  You should have this rule too.

TRY TO UNDERSTAND THAT DIFFICULTIES FROM MEMORIES CAN EFFECT ALL OF US.  SO SHOW SOME COMPASSION FOR WHAT YOUR PARENTS MAY HAVE WENT THROUGH.

If I would have taken the path of my biological mother, I would right now, be sitting in the bar, getting drunk while planning my 8th marriage to the man who would beat my child so bad she would end up at the emergency room, and then rescued by foster care.  Terrible scene isn't it?  You bet it is, but I lived it.

I have been through physical abuse by long and hard dimensions.  My mother wasn't too bad, with the exception she encouraged the beatings because she said the jerk loved me more than her if he didn't do it.  Many bruises later, and with many vicious attacks, I finally ended up with my back being black, and three broken toes on my left foot at Christmas time, the year 1984, for making a friend who was black.

I was told I was a nigger lover, and didn't discover until years later, that my mother couldn't admit what they did was wrong, so she told everyone in my family, as well as anyone who would listen, that I went into foster care because I got pregnant by a black guy, rather than saying they locked me in the attic without a light, beat me for five hours, the first two of which were with a two by four.

I have been asked how I could forgive my mother, but because of the life that she too was forced to live, I know she just didn't know how to change her life.  She was too involved in the drugs and the alcohol and too consumed with her own immaturity to do the right thing.

Sure, to this day right now, I can't visit her without her crying that I hate her, and me explaining I wouldn't be at her house if I did hate her.  The guilt for her is overwhelming, but in the same aspect, she should be held accountable for what she has done.

Sure, to this day right now, I can't visit her without her crying that I hate her, and me explaining I wouldn't be at her house if I did hate her.  The guilt for her is overwhelming, but in the same aspect, she should be held accountable for what she has done.

In many aspects she still hasn't changed, but I still forgive her.  As long as I keep my distance from her, and not let her interfere with my inner peace of mind, we do just fine.  I just have learned to keep my distance, and not let her try to make me forget what she has done by telling me it was all my fault.  

There's lots to this story that I will share over time, as this was just a quick overcast of what happened, but this is also to show you that if you have been through the emotional turmoil of an abusive upbringing, I understand exactly what you have been through.  Don't be afraid to contact me to find out how your childhood has affected you so that you can get yourself on a healthier state of mind.

No matter what you have been through, or the turmoils and perils you have faced, you have the ability to break the chains, and if you are on the side of the person being the abuser, get help as soon as possible to protect those you love from painful memories that will last a lifetime.

While there have been moments I have struggled with the things I have been through, there have also been many golden memories that transpired as a results.  Always remember, there is something good to be found in every bad, just as there is something bad to be found in every good.

Many Blessings, Teresa