When That Other Woman Wants Your Man

We've all had it happen to us, we fall in love with someone, and another woman sets her eyes on our man.  It seems that no matter how lonely your partner was before you, these people climb out of the woodwork once they see they were missing out.  You should think about a few things before bringing any of this to light though, or you could potentially lose the person you are getting to know, and in a real hurry.

How To Handle The Instigating Woman

RULE #1:  Don't back down from the person you are interested in, based on stories.  An example of this was when my husband and I started to hit it off, this woman tried explaining how much my 'now' husband had really wanted her.  I replied, "Thank you for passing him up, he is a great catch, and I'm happy to be getting to know him."

RULE #2:  This woman may have already been your new partner's friend, before he ever liked you.  This would go without saying, because at one point he liked her, so you may find this woman trying to use their friendship to interfere in the relationship.  An example of this, is the very same woman I noted up above was on my husband's pool league.  While they were out playing for their team, she made comment to my 'now' husband, by stating she didn't think I was fond of their friendship.  My response was, "Oh, that's ridiculous honey, because I don't come between friends.  Friendships are very important, so no, I don't mind at all."

RULE #3:  Don't show any insecurities in front of this woman, or to your new mate.  I always would smile and invite this woman to come and sit with me and my 'now' husband.  I would be very friendly to her, as well as kept it a secret that I knew she was coming on to him.  You don't want to send your new mate in the direction he had been chasing prior to you, so why clue him in with her new found feelings?

RULE #4:  Keep your private moments 'private'.  There is no need to share your problems with other women, as then they know what your problems are, and can try to show your mate that they don't possess those problems.  Likewise, keep those thoughts that are so beautiful and cherished to you within your heart, and share them only with people very close to you, as you don't want to draw attention to what other women may want to have.

RULE #5:  Do NOT pin the other woman and display your anger about what she is doing.  If you take this route, you are actually telling this woman you are insecure of her, and why would you be insecure of her if you have something solid?  Doing this will only enforce this woman to believe she stands a chance, and in the end, could even make you look bad if it gets twisted.  You don't want to come across as controlling within your relationship.

Having followed these rules, I kept my relationship healthy during the stages of instigation, and ended up marrying the man I was with.  It wasn't until years later, when I knew he was devoted to me, that I shared what this woman had done, and while he didn't acknowledge it could be the case, he had to acknowledge it that weekend when she made an actual move on him, but was never so happy as to tell her absolutely not.

Playing the game right in dating can mean the difference between making or breaking the relationship you are forming, so make sure you play the game right.

~Remember:  Men think in black and white, and women think in color.~

This is one of my most favorite sayings, because it's true.  A man will just say what he thinks, while a woman will sit down and dissect it, coming up with many possabilities for translation.

So when he says he loves getting to know you, don't question it by saying, but you don't know what someone else is doing.  Just leave it for the better, as he so gently put it from the start, he's only interested in you.  So no worries!

Other Articles Of Interest

• Read about how codependency can strike at an early age:  Click Here.
• Decide which type of mate is more suitable for you:  Click Here.
• Read about Karmic Debt and different articles of reference:  Click Here.
• Read various poems submitted to date:  Click Here.
• Check out my various prices on services offered:  Click Here.

These are just a few of the articles I have written over the past, that you may enjoy, and in future articles submitted, be sure to see what else may be of interest to read.

A Sincere Apology

This apology goes out to both readers as well as business writers on this blog site.  While I was busy trying to be use the business etiquette, it appears I made quite a stir.  I am going back to my longer articles, for the most part, as I understand the spiritual side really does not truly fit in with business.  I have also seen the light as to how my many posts can affect different readers and their being able to share with others, so I've simply started linking to everything.  This way, I won't be posting articles one after the other, and people can still be a part of the work I am trying to create.  I am sorry that I have offended people and just want to get on with my general practices.  Anyway, just wanted to say I'm sorry in a positive way.

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I just want you to know it was never my intent to shove anyone to the back.  I never even knew about the main blog page, as I am totally new, and while it doesn't make up the 'ignorance', I am more versed now in how the system works.  Whether the apology is forgiven or not, I am deeply sorry for the mishaps that were included in all of this.

Working together as a group is much more efficient than just working alone.  I would love to link some other stories that are very beautiful written by other bloggers out there if they would like to be seen.  So if you have something you feel could really benefit some readers, let me know, and I'll be sure to include you.

I have seen a lot of information posted, some helpful to others, and some just smashing on people, but I do know that those that are helpful deserve the attention of everyone involved.  Lets work together to bring something positive to this blog of keen, and keep those articles no longer seen on top of the list.

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Handling Stresses Easier

One way to keep the stress level down is a method I seen in a doctor's office on the wall, and it works very well.  If you do the opposite of what you feel, you will find the stress level goes way down.

If you feel like screaming at someone, give them a compliment.  Not only does it bring a smile to your face when someone gets that confused expression on their face, but it also makes them forget what the focus is being put on.

Try this with friends, family and foe, and you'll find your mind is in a much healthier frame of mind.

Look Forward To One More How To Article Today

While I am no longer writing the way I used to write before, I am going to be posting just two articles a day.  One article will point to various topics, and one article will be a how-to article addressed to doing your own readings, etc.  

This way I can cover all topics in a nice fashion that is acceptable to all.  My hours of operation today is 1 pm to 8 pm eastern time.  I look forward to meeting you, and hope you have enjoyed what you have read.

Many Blessings,
Teresa