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For a select few, they find their love right off the bat, and never had to go through the painstaking patterns of weeding through those we encounter on missions of love, but for the majority of us, we pluck out several weeds just to find that magic garden we hope for.
Love isn't easy, and it takes patience, and above all, finding your very best friend. Once you find this best friend, you realize all you need is this person in your life, and often people discover it's not the initial physical attraction that counts. After all, many people don't find they are attracted until much later when it hits them in the face like a ton of bricks.
There is ultimately someone for everyone. Your tastes and dislikes are matched with someone else that walks the face of this earth, but in order to meet that person, you can't settle on someone who hasn't even come close to reaching the point of no return. This is wasted time, and although we may live many lifetimes, we really can only be focused on this one.
Because we have criteria for what we will and will not accept, you go through more people, which makes you feel let down like you're never going to find love. This couldn't be further from the truth, because you'll realize having this set of rules to live by makes things more stable when that one special person does enter your life. |
Each different person in this world is unique, and comes equipped with different standards, wants and desires. Stick to them and you'll find true inner happiness finds true love. |
A Little Story:
My husband and I were never going to get married. We had both been through so much trying to find that one special person that we just decided we wanted to have the freedom to leave if the going was good. In fact, we also decided we didn't want to pretend and be realistic, and we spent two weeks laughing together as we discussed our 'bad' points that no one else could handle. Come to find out, we both had the same issues, and with issues we didn't, we were sure we could handle them. So we lived together happily for another year, and in the meantime got engaged, as that was now the next step towards commitment, and last step we wanted to take, only to have relatives asking "And how long do you plan on being engaged with marriage?" The following year, we were married, and we've been married for nine very short years now, and still find each other to be our best friends, able to read each other's minds, and understand where one must pick up when the other lets go. We have been a lifesource to each other, each growing in new ways, but growing together at exact dimensions. It took me 33 years to find this, and I'm not kidding, and went through more people than I care to count. I had to be picky to find the right man for me, and that's what you must do too, and when you meet this person, you'll know it's the right one, because you can laugh about faults rather than run from them. |