Rules For Understanding Readings

     Tarot readings are a great way to figure out what is going on in your relationship or current life issues.  However, even if a reading says what you want it to say, does it mean it's the right path for you to follow?

Readings Guide You, Not Set Your Path In Stone

     Your readings are meant to simply guide you towards the decision you feel is correct for you, and understanding what you want out of life is the key to understanding what your reading says to your heart personally.

     You see, if you want to have love in your life, and you have met someone you feel definitely fits the criteria, but you get a reading because this person is making you confusing, and your message tells you that yes, you can definitely see things work out, but there are numerous issues needing to be worked through, and logically, knowing what they are, these issues could take a long time to actually be healed, does it mean it's healthy to wait for this person until they actually do it?

     That choice is actually something that is a personal decision to you, and has to be based on something rather simple.  If you are looking for love, which is the main point, and you have been ready for five years, you need to make sure you are making a healthy decision to wait longer.

     The reasoning behind this has to do with your frame of mind.  If you can nonchalantly walk through life, feeling good about your decision, the answer is quite simple, and yes, it's healthy to be able to wait for the outcome, but if you are lonely inside, and it hurts you every day to even think about it, then you aren't actually getting the love you want inside, and it becomes unhealthy to wait for the outcome.

What Does Timing Have To Do With It?

It doesn't mean things will be one hundred percent solved during that time, but little things I tell you to use as signs will become present during that time that things are headed as suggested.

     Time frames are usually quite accurate with me, however, I don't like to promote them, because the bottom line is how fast something does or does not happen is a direct result of the actions, or lack of actions, to take care of problems by someone in the relationship.

     So it's more important to look at the signs than it is the timing to make sure things are acceptable in your mind in terms of if you want to pursue the situation any longer.

Loving Yourself Means Using An Objective Mind

     If I tell you something is possible, but there are an immense amount of problems being indicated, you need to objectively decide if the emotions you will have to deal with to see things through will be able to be handled with positive thinking.

     If positive thinking just doesn't seem to be an option, and you just can't seem to want to accept that the situation you are asking about is actually that difficult, then you may be using the reading for the wrong purpose.

     Your reading should enlighten you if you are honestly looking at the situation, and not just being consumed with having what you want.  You have to remember that if it's a love situation, it begins by you wanting the feeling of love, and it doesn't necessarily mean you have to have that love from a specific person.

     Only you can decide what is best for you, but you will only discover what is best if you follow your true inner heart.

Loving Yourself Means Setting Standards

     To love yourself, means you have already made a mental list of what it is you expect when it comes to love, and for not settling on less than what your list is made of.

     Yes, this does mean it could take quite a bit longer to find that dream come true partner, but it also means that once you do, it will be long lasting without a lot of heartbreak or hardships.

     If you settle for less in the course of finding love, you will never fully be happy inside and the relationship isn't going to last, because eventually, all of those situations you thought you could deal with will tend to get underneath your skin.  Once this happens, we tend to make a set of rules that was never introduced right away to the person we were with, and eventually, over time, they wonder where the person they met disappeared to, and eventually the relationship will dissolve.

Don't Judge The Relationship On The Fake Honeymoon Period

     When we first meet someone we are interested in, and we're having fun and all is interesting, we rarely want to bring out the indifference, or problems that exist within ourselves that could affect the relationship.  Therefore, only good times are had, and then one day, the pretend atmosphere collapses, and you are faced with a person who is doing things you didn't know they were capable of doing, and wondering when the feelings you had at the beginning of the relationship are ever going to return.

     Well some of that good can return, but the fact of the matter is, now that the fake honeymoon period is over, you are never going to be rid of the person who has already become the character that they are.  Now, I'm not talking about the person who has been hurt in old relationships that has unresolved issues here.  I'm talking about the true personality of the person you are with.  For example, when you first may have met the person you are with, they may have come across as understanding, but once the relationship gets going, you come to find out that this person tends to feel quite strongly about how money should be spent, and feels you are in the wrong, and this person's way is the only way that is correct.  Which means my way or the highway.

     A good rule of thumb is to be honest from the start.  You lay your criteria, needs, desires and wants out on the table from the start.  If you don't like your partners staring at other people of your sex, don't allow it to happen in the beginning of the relationship, and if this person doesn't want to accept and cooperate on the matter, then this person is going to respect you enough to even waste your time on them.

     Anyway, these are all lessons to learn by, and I hope this information was both helpful, and educational in the terms of educating.