Angels Whisper Softly

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What you don't face or feel stays burried within you or will be manifested through you in other ways until it is faced... be it through unconscious acting out behavior, illness, energetic imbalances, or through what you draw to you and manifest into the world. Affirmations and practicing Law of Attraction can work against you if you practice them from a place of denial of the present or with the wrong mind set, approach or intent. They should only be practiced through a feeling of neutrality. I've even had lucid dreams where I became afraid and tried to lucid dream another reality and failed because I never faced, loved nor became non-judgemental towards the one I was in.

Affirmations are frequently not used or approached in the right way. What you don't want to happen is for there to occur a greater suppression or "splitting off" of parts of the personality in order to try to think, act or affirm something that deep down there exists some resistance. The result could be further disease and dishamony. The wrong way to use affirmation is to feel that you are no longer allowed to think, act or feel in ways out of accordance with what you are affirming. Neutrality is the key and letting go of perceptions of right, wrong, good and bad knowing all strong feelings of opposites are coming from the same source. For example, Mahatma Gandhi was a man of peace but died through violence, because his attention was still violence, the eradication of it through peace.

Any time to you to split away part of your personality, that part of you will demand you pay attention and will use anything it can to try to form a communcation bond (body, circumstances, emotional issues or other means). It's really a cry for love. This is true even when we don't even remember the traumas, yet they are still having an effect upon our unconsciousness or conscious life and we can't seem to make out why.

Sometimes we do remember experiences but they feel numb to us or we cannot connect with them and thus they seem resistant to healing. This is most often the case for children or adults who experience trauma and handle it by shutting down or shutting off emotionally. Possibly as children they were punished for displaying emotions, ignored or made to feel weak or flawed. It keeps the trauma and the emotions buried and held in the energy field and body until reintegrated in the self.

So much mentality of todays world is one of quick fix and of not showing or accepting weaknesses, be they in ourselves or in others. But we forget that only through risking vulnerability, reaching out for love and support and being able to feel and show our weaknesses can we find true strength and healing. It is unfortunate that in the world today and historically people end up not only dealing with the trauma's but carrying a deep sense of shame that they haven't managed to buck up and release them to serve the needs of the world or others. Would any other creature feel this way? Ashamed? And that becomes a trauma and a complex on its own to release.

Most of us who carry fears or traumas haven't learned to love that child/adult within who was hurt. Not in the sense of maintaining a victim conscious (that is merely a defense mechanism), but in the sense of embracing that part of ourselves the same way one would wish to embrace the child who they witness being hurt and wanted to comfort them. Love, nurturing, helping that part of the self feel a sense of comfort and protection is what brings in the most healing. Sometimes, however, in life, traumas can happen, abuses, for which that child is never embraced afterwards by anyone. All remains silenced, even to the child who learns to shut their pain down and go through it alone. Its like telling that little girl or boy who is afraid in the night that their is a boogie man in the closet that they are wrong to feel their fear instead of just taking that child, letting it know it is safe and loved, offering it a hug. The former approach only makes the child feel stupid and yet still afraid. All parts of us are just extentions of a greater identy/creation seeking love, our love and not simply our rationalizations and attempts to shut them away. But often we just try to push away or feel frustrated or punishing of these parts of ourselves, viewing them in disgust. We are simply here as actors and creators but unlike actors who may choose difficult role to play and embrace the opportunity with relish, we embrace ours with disgust or wanting someone elses part to play ... it isnt meant to be this way.

Most times you know something is going on within you when you try to visualize or affirm something good for you and just get this tug of resistance against it, part of your inner self, or the child within struggling to make itself heard and screaming at you to acknowledge it, yet you are not really sure what that child is trying to say. Sometimes just "help", "pay attention to me I'm feeling neglected", "love me" or "I don't feel safe/loved."

One thing I like about EFT is that it works through actually getting you to face the issue with non-judgement. It is not about looking the other way, sweeping things under the carpet or suppressing. The only way out is through... You face the issue and honor it in the form of a set up statement "Even though ....., I deeply and completely love and accept myself". You aren't asked to deny or medicate anything. Like a homeopathic it works on premise of like treats like. You face it while tapping on certain meridian points in your body and try to bring about a release (side of hand, crown, beginning of eyebrow, bone on side of eye, bone on under eye, under nose, chin, collorbone point - in indentation and underarm - where a womans bra strap sits). Sometimes there are what are called "Psychological reversals" in the way to releasing such things which can be picked up through muscle testing. These are nothing to feel ashamed of. Often they are lodged in your energy or nervous system and is not a matter of willpower in overcoming them. Sometimes clearing them and shifting them they can come back though and they need repeated clearing. Such reversals include "I dont deserve to be free of this", "It's not safe", "I'm not willing" etc etc. These are all the little child inside speaking in its immature language of not understanding. It is not yet rational and if you try to reason with it, it simply does not understand. It wants love and comfort and acknowledgement and not rationality and reasoning. It has its own emotional language. A language that can be learned and understood, if you are patient and willing.

There are a few other energy medicine and visualization techniques that can be used for releasing feeling from the body or eft can be used, though sometimes trauma's (especially if there are many of them). The process works like the peeling of an onion and you have to peel back all the layers. Any body pains coming up are signs of release and you can focus on and feel them and see if any images come up. Usually the focus is enough to release them.

If you have excessive fear you can try tapping repeatedly on the point on the back of the hand between and below the knuckles of the pinky and forth finger in the indentation while focusing on and being "with" what you fear.

A TAT technique for releasing fear works by placing your hands one over the forhead (you are covering certain point located on the forhead) and one hand over the back of the head thumb resting on the point where your neck meets your skull. Hold this position or have someone else hold it while intensely focusing on your feeling/issue/memory until you feel it release some. You can then repeat the exercise using the affirmation "Thank you God for releasing the cause of ..." till you feel a shift. Then "Thank you God for releasing all the places in my body, mind and life where .... has resonated". Then "Thank you God for releasing all parts of me that get something out of holding onto ....". Then "Thank you God that I now forgive all the people I blamed for ...(including yourself)" and lastly "Thank you god that I am forgiven by all the people who have blamed me for ... (including yourself)".

If this position is hard to hold without tiring, another position is to lie or sit on a bed and cross ones ankles while bringing turning ones hands so palms face away from sides of the body. Then bring them in, cross them and hold them so pinkies are facing the sky and thumbs are down. Then bring your joined hands upwards and over your chest. Hold this position while trying to bring up and connect with painful memories or while watching something or listening to songs which connect you with held emotions/phobia/fear etc. As you do, imagine that there is a loving energy surrounding you and channeling through you which pulls all those memories/trauma's and feelings into its light and which pulls it downward through your body, out your feet and into the ground where it is released into the earth.

This can also sometimes work for feelings of physical pain or resistance, focus on that feeling of pain or resistance and face it, feel it fully, send it love...