Attraction ~ Connection and the Possibility of an Impossible Relationship
Attraction/Connection does not equate a future relationship. I have several wonderful clients lately that have been struggling with this issue.
I know he’s married but………….but there is such a connection between us. Will he recognize or acknowledge that with me. ~ pause ~ Uh, no. But Why??? Well because I see that that man truly cares for his wife and would not have an affair. Well but he can’t be happy with her if he’s attracted to me, can HE??
~ Sigh ~ Attraction is CHEMICAL. Commitment is CHOICE. No one takes part in a long-term relationship without facing temptation.
So many women I speak with want the 2nd fairy tale ending.
They meet a man. Their eyes lock. He immediately knows she is the REAL ONE. He is married. However, he was just so confused on his wedding day he accidentally married the WRONG ONE. Mr. Married-But-Still-Wonderful immediately upon facing this profound revelation goes directly home and announces to the Wife Troll and Troll-Like children he’s leaving for greener pastures! The family goes “POOF” and he runs back to marry the woman of his dreams.
Of course he will never cheat on you. Never discard you like a rag. Never blame you for all of his problems as he cries on the shoulder of another woman. No. Why? Because you were both destined to be together.
Some little known facts.
Only two vows or covenants you make with your maker are still socially and legally acknowledged in our world: the vow of religious service and the vow of marriage.
Less than 3% of all affairs end in a marriage with the cheating spouse and third party.
Adulterers lie. They are lying to the primary people in their lives, their family and their friends. Yet women do not think they would lie to them about their wives to justify their behavior. Strange..........
An affair is not a reality. It is a fantasy relationship where the single party has put themselves on sale in the bargain bin for the sake of being in a lop-sided relationship. They are with a man or a woman who will have sex with them only to return home to kiss their spouse goodnight and lay down next to them for the evening.
I have guided many through this process. In all my years of reading only 7 affairs actually lasted longer than 2 years after the DIVORCE. It is heartbreaking to see so many people hang their life, their happiness, and their self esteem on such a torturous path. Only 1 ended in a marriage which ended in a divorce within three years due to infidelty.
Please think deeply before enjoining your heart on this path. The odds are incredible that you will end up hurt and the energy you send forth may just set you up to be cheated on in your next relationship.
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