Can a Tiger Change His Stripes?
I have conducted countless readings regarding love and relationships. I can safely say that most psychics are asked relationship questions 75% of the time when we are called for readings. Love is a billion dollar industry (dating sites, clothing shops, perfume/cologne, make-up, and hair-care) That isn't just for us- it is also so we can feel attractive about ourselves but also to our potential or current mate. Due to innate human longing to be connected with another human being, we do all sorts of things. From the beginning of our development in our mother's womb, we long to be taken care of and to feel warm and comforted. Our mother's body gives us nourishment and once we enter the world,
we are shocked by the bright lights and sounds and simply want someone to assure us that everything will be okay. We cling to mommy. We get familiar with her scent. We know her voice, we even known the exact rhythm of her heartbeat. No one can replace mommy. Dad is great, but at least for those first few weeks, months and sometimes even years, mommy is where it is at because we were inside of her body and she was the first one that ever loved us outside of God.
As we grow up and mature, we begin to see that others are capable of giving and receiving love as well. Others can supply us with a love that mommy can't, romantic puppy love. We enter our teens and sometimes because boy or girl crazy or shyly swoon over a secret crush that takes our breath away. His or her name is written in our notebook, inside our locker and we 'pretend' to be a couple with them even if we may have never spoken to them in our entire lives. Then we grow past this stage and become even more mature and start actually meeting potential mates or getting to know what was originally a 'puppy love' situation develops into a full blown love affair as time passes. We learn about love through observation, our natural emotions, and outside influences. We sift and sort this information and some of it we may not even realize is influencing us. Somewhere along the line though, we had a mental 'model' of what we wanted. We may not have given much thought to it, but we knew when we 'saw' this person or spent time with them, that they matched our prototype. It may not have even been a physical prototype; it could have been a personality one etc. The problems come in when we hold on to a prototype that was possibly created by seeing our parents in an unstable relationship/marriage and soap operas as well as cheesy romance novels. We meet various people and try to 'force' them into the cubby hole we created. Sometimes, they fit part of the way, most of the way or not at all but that is hard to tell at first in the beginning stages of a relationship because everyone has their best foot forward when you first meet them. When have you met someone and on the first date they say,
"Oh, by the way...I've never been faithful to any of the women I dated. I can not keep a job for longer than 30 days. I have a long police record that includes 17 felonies. I have a horrible temper. I am possessive and controlling and on occasion have been tempted to knock a chick's teeth down her throat if she gets mouthy. I am not very good with money, I expect to have 3 home cooked meals a day rather my future girlfriend/wife works or not and my shirts and pants ironed even if I am not working and I am a mama's boy. I'm a great catch though."
If these sort of statements were stated from the gate, most women would be gone from that table immediately! We would grab our purse, tell that person Adios and vanish never to be seen again! If people were not putting their best foot forward and not covering the truth about whom they really were, many of us would have been saved a lot of heartache in the dating world.
So now this topic is coming full circle by me jumping to the title: Can a tiger change its stripes? Technically, yes however this is not something we should put all of our stock in or bank on, for a variety of reasons. Relationships are like investments. They take monitoring and some work but they should not be labor. It should not constantly hurt to love your mate. If your mate is a very jealous person and you have prayed, talked with them, suggested counseling etc. and nothing has changed, then you need to understand that it may never change. The only things you can control in this world are your actions and thoughts as well as responses. Everything else is out of your hands! Once you realize this and understand it, you will be less stressed. We do not have control over other people's life, just as no one technically has control over ours. No one can tell you what to think and how to feel- those belong to you. Even men and women that are incarcerated have freedom of mind. Even men and women in the military that may undergo all sorts of mind games in order to see if they can break, have their own mind though they may appear to all cling to the same thoughts and have no separate identities. This simply isn't true because our dna proves it is not true and never can be. You’re very genetic make-up proves that you are incapable of being totally controlled and forced to be like someone else. It can be that way temporarily, but it can never last because nature always wins. It can never happen- a total complete change unless you really want that and train yourself to be that way. Even identical twins have differences rather an on-looker can see it or not. So with that said, if you change or shift, it will be you doing it and no one else can do it. A Tiger only changes its stripes when it decides it no longer likes the pattern.
You and whatever army will not be able to change that tiger's stripes and any temporary changes that occur under the pressure of your influence, will typically revert back over time. No one stays a changed man or woman if they made that change 100% for someone else. Those changes are temporary only to appease you. People have to change because they WANT to change. A person, who is incapable of being faithful, has to get to the root of the reason why they disrespect themselves and their relationships that way. It is something that is going on with THEM, not their partners. A person that is constantly yelling at their mate has to get to the root of why they become so angry and demonstrative, especially when they notice it never changes anything and actually sometimes makes it worse. It is an issue with THEM, not their partner. Their partner may have said or done something that helped cause the anger, but we CHOOSE our reactions. A person that refuses to support their family and uses excuses to not get a job in order to bring in some income if they are able bodied has to look internally as to why they will not do what they need to do in order to be a responsible adult. It has nothing to do with their partner; it has to come from them and for them. Therefore, you waste a lot of time and energy on people that you are trying to change, if that is your mission. You can foster desire in them to change, but they have to want it even more than YOU DO FOR THEM, for it to happen and stick!
So....don't worry about your Tiger changing his or her stripes, concentrate on changing your own life and making choices that benefit you. Change your own stripes. You didn't paint your partners stripes on them and you can not erase them. Only they can.
God Bless and Be Well
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