How to Attack Negative Thinking
Hello Seekers and fellow Advisors-
Due to some emails I have received, conversations with friends and family this past weekend, it just reminds me once again that we are all are here to help someone else. Our lives do not just belong to us, afteralll. Who'd uh thunk it?
For any of you going through a hard time, uncertainty, drowning in worry or feeling pressure due to life changing experiences that you have little to no control over and are now allowing negativity to take over, this is for you:
" You can begin feeling whatever you want (even if it's not there)...the universe will correspond to the nature of your song." -This is a Quote from 'the secret'.
What this means is that the universe, rather it is reflecting physically to you what you need or not, it will materialize or answer, in some manifestation eventually. We are energy- we are souls that are made in God's image and we are 'balls of energy'. We are either positive or negative, when we send thoughts, feelings and expressions of ourselves out- they are one or the other.
From thoughts of, "She sure is a pain in the butt..."
to thoughts of, "I can not believe how nice it is outside."
They all 'create' a cause and effect. We are all guilty of negative thoughts and thinking processes. They become a pattern. People that tend to be very pessimistic, worry-warts and constant skeptics are usually attracting just what they 'DON'T BELIEVE'. In other words, those that do not believe in Creator or God per se, have a hard time seeing God or Creator in anything, because their thoughts are not open to receiving the possibility. Those of us that do believe in God, we may think God is in EVERYTHING and even over analyze this. It really depends on your perspective and we as human beings tend to attract whatever it is we believe. Our existence is defined by our beliefs. Once you change your thoughts and beliefs, your existence as you experience it, changes. Thus, your experiences begin to change in order to match your beliefs! Isn't that awesome?!
Some people believe they are destined to be alone forever or 'old maids'.
Thus, years are passing and that is exactly what many are getting. They are manifesting the negativity. This also goes for women or men who say they want a new love life but they are still holding on to someone from the past that is not fulfilling a fraction of their desires. If we believe we can be, get and receive nothing better, then we will continue to get, receive nothing- causing the manifestation.
Haven't you ever noticed that it is easier to attract negativity to you than positivity? Why? because there is a lot more negative energy floating around than positive. Just turn on the evening news- you'll see. The more abundant something is, the more likely your chances of having it if you concentrate on it enough. So, for example, if you have a plate in front of you that has twenty hairy, nasty spiders on it, and one delicious piece of Belgium chocolate, if you are blind folded and hoping and praying you do not pick up the spider, chances are higher you will get the spider because of mere probability and the fact that most people will think you will select the spider due that probability which in turn may feed a lack of confidence in yourself, to beat the odds. Thus, you eat the spider!
Just because something LEANS more away from your favor, does not mean it is unattainable. Once you shift, the situation in your favor, you will see more positive results because you have changed the odds to better suit you.
Have you noticed when you are experiencing road rage, it appears that more idiots are out on the road, more train stops, more aggravation and more construction is all around? There may even be a new toll booth that you didn't realize was there and before you know it, you are cursing like a sailor and your blood pressure is rose to an alarming level.
When you tell yourself though, "If someone cuts me off, if someone is driving very slow or if someone is tail gating me, I am going to be calm and smile." Do you notice that if you have this mind set- not only do you arrive at your destination probably around the same time you would have anyway, but you feel a lot better and your day tends to be get a little better? We attract what we project.
The constantly negative person at work that is always talking about everyone, never doing his or her work and is a busy body is attracting negativity to herself. You may ignore this person. However, when we participate, we become contaminated. We attract more positivity, more 'light' if we would just say, "I am sorry you are having such a horrible day. Tomorrow could be better, if you give it a chance." Versus us thinking, "Who really gives a crap? You deserve it because you are such a nasty person!" It's okay to be human- I am just giving an example of what we do from day to day and how we never stop to consider or think about, why the same things happen to us over and over. It is a different day, a new set of players, but the same old plot, time and time again. We expect today to be just like yesterday, thus, we more times than not, receive just that- a re-run. I don't know about you, but I want and desire new, exciting and positive episodes to my life.
"You get exactly what you are FEELING."
When you are in a happy mood, it takes a lot more to get you negative than when you are in a bad mood already. For instance, if your husband or best friend is in a horrible mood, but you are in a good mood- you will feel that. You will try to bring him or her up, boost him or her up, but the more resistant he or she is, the more he or she starts to wear you down. We have to keep our distance from negative people, even the ones we love. I am not talking about your best friend or mate that is having a bad day, I am talking about that person that more times than not, is in a rotten mood and hates the world. I am talking about that contaminated person that always has something negative to say no matter what.
NEGATIVITY is contagious.
Let me repeat that...
NEGATIVITY is CONTAGIOUS.
Treat it as such.
Start using this sentence for all of your wants, "I'm so happy and grateful now that..."
1. ...NOW THAT MY BABY IS BORN HEALTHY...
2. ...NOW THAT MY MOTHER AND I'S RELATIONSHIP IS REPAIRED....
3. ...NOW THAT I CAN BE HOME TO CARE FOR MY FAMILY...
4. ...NOW THAT I AM SPIRITUALLY CONNECTED...
5. ...NOW THAT MY HUSBAND/WIFE AND I ARE IN COUNSELING...
6. ...NOW THAT I HAVE A FRESH START IN LIFE...
7. ....NOW THAT I FOUND SOMEONE WHO RESPECTS, CHERISHES AND LOVES ME...
So on, and so fourth.
I know what my calling is in life- And I embrace it. I will continue to fight my patterns of negativity as well. I no longer want to attract people, circumstances and situations into my life that are not good for me- due to my OWN magnetic appeal. That opposites attract theory is bull. Opposites rarely attract and when they do, it is VERY short lived.
If you want a healthy relationship, then YOU have to get YOURSELF together and be healthy, FIRST!
If you want an in shape body- stop reading magazines and start DOING something. Get up and walk around. Stop crying about how you are now three times your size you were in high school and do what it takes to feel comfortable again, being in the skin you are in.
If you want a better job, start doing everything humanly possible to achieve that and start telling yourself and believing, "I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I DESERVE. I do NOT have to be unhappy 40 hours of the week." It really depends on how much we desire it! Things we REALLY want in life, we pursue with gusto. Things we want but believe we will never have, we do not pursue at all or do it with little to no zest.
It is a lot easier to be negative, than to be positive. Negativity doesn't require a lot of work because there is so much of it to choose from and someone or something is always willing to give you more of it. There are so many things wrong or could go wrong in our daily lives. Positivity requires FAITH (which is believing in things unseen), it requires LOVE (loving those people that do not love themselves nor do not love us), it requires PATIENCE (Waiting for the outcome but STILL going on about your LIFE!)
All of that is soooo hard for us! Negativity only requires a thought, and then it is all your's.You own it!
Anything worth having is worth loving, waiting, fighting and believing for and in. If we get things too easy, we do not appreciate them. We should also want, however, things that are POSITIVE and not things that are NEGATIVELY affecting our lives.
I will stop rambling, even though I could continue but I just wanted to lay that on your hearts because some of you are going through such a rough time. We can not control everything, but the things we can control, the things YOU can control, we can be proactive and that takes some discipline, some self honesty and getting to know yourself. There is no one else like you on the earth, that is amazing within itself.
Ask yourself, "What am I here for?"
and after that question, ask yourself, "What type of experience will I paint for myself today?" Your actions, thoughts, experiences, beliefs and mindset CREATE your day, your week, your month, your year, your life.- So Mote it Be!