Dealing with our own Hurt
So many times in life we allow ourselves to be hurt and offended by others. Unfortunately it is because of our own filters and perceptions that the hurt first manifests. At those times we move into protection mode and we either attack the person who offended or we attack ourselves.
When you experience a hurtful word or action from someone, try to remain in a place of detachment. As your mind and ego try to assign meaning and blame, consciously choose to not react. Watch where your thoughts go. Breathe. Again, don't react.
If you are face to face with the person or on the phone, take a time out and remove yourself from the situation until you've had time to examine the emotions welling up inside you. Understanding that you are being triggered and clearly identifying where that trigger originated and when, will help to dissipate the hurtful energy.
A lot of times when we are hurt within our love relationships its because of something that occurred long ago. When we are conscious of our own emotional reactions and why they are there we have a chance at healing. Use hurt as a tool to transcend your pain and deepen your understanding, not as a place to get stuck.
Its most important that we take responsibility for our own emotions when we are hurt and not project it onto others. Even though they may have done or said something that hurt us, remaining in a place of understanding will allow you to negate that hurt. Replace it with love and get back to your own sense of worth and power.
Once you've regained your stability then you can examine why that person said or did the hurtful thing. Look at it from a place of compassion, not judgement. Was that person hurting? Angry? Protecting themself? Projecting? Ask Spirit to show you the lesson, the silver lining, why this happened. Ask what opportunity to grow and learn you have been presented with.
Then forgive! Forgive yourself, the other person and those involved in the original hurt. Then allow yourself to feel love, express love and receive love.
Doing this instead of reacting in anger or blame will allow you to transcend all hurt and it will set you free. It takes practice but it's a lesson we are all learning!!
God Bless!!
May your journey to love be a joyful one you embrace,
Bernadette
(C)2008