Embrace Change and Grow
When an old house begins to slide off the foundation, electric wiring becomes frayed and plumbing unable to be replaced, it is better to demolish the house then to continue making endless repairs. Once the old house is demolished, a new foundation is laid and brick by brick a new house is built. The completed house functions far better and will last longer then the old house as repairs would eventually serve no purpose. The cost of replacing fixtures, appliances and internal systems would eventually outweigh the cost of building a new house.
When life suddenly begins to change it can create anxiety and fear. For many, changes like residential moves, loss or change of job and ending relationships sends ripples of fear throughout ones mind. For some, change is viewed as failure. For others change is viewed as catastrophic. In reality, change is positive and a sign of life evolving.
When changes begin to present themselves in our lives, we have a choice to respond openly and flexibly, or rigidly and resistant. If we are open and flexible, we remain in the flow of life and we are able to create powerful experiences based on joy and love. If we are resistant to change, the flow continues but we experience things as being ripped away from us. The more we attempt to hold onto things that are passing out of our lives, the more we are resisting the evolving of our own lives and souls. As things leave our lives, they are replaced with new experiences.
As we see social structures, economic structures and political structures that no longer serve the greater good change, we must remember to embrace the change and expect something better to replace the old outdated structures. Change can appear chaotic as old structures and relationships dissolve. The wisdom of the universe is not chaos but love and stability. It is our own perception that creates the chaos.
So many times I work with people who are holding onto relationships that are no longer serving their highest good. Even if the relationship is lacking trust, communication, fidelity and love, sometimes we resist the ending for fear nothing new will replace it.
When one partner wants to leave and the other holds on it creates tension and resentment. The relationship will still end even if you hold on, but when it does the partner who was left will feel abandoned and may even continue hoping for a return. In situations like this, it is good to compare it to the house metaphor. The old house no longer was safe to live in and so a new one is built. The end result is a beautiful, safe place to live, a home that provides shelter, warmth and new experiences. Although the old house gave its residents memories and experiences that can never be replaced, it makes no sense to hold onto it when the repairs are more costly then building new.
Nothing in life can remain static. Nature has cycles. Life has cycles. From birth to death we change, grow and evolve. From year to year we learn new things, master new skills and change our beliefs. Who you are today is not who you were ten years ago. If you are faced with changes that have you anxious, remember all the things you’ve allowed to change in the past and the results of those changes.
If we resisted changing classrooms as we progressed through elementary school we would not have learned anything. Our bodies would grow, but our minds would remain stationary. It makes no sense to repeat Kindergarten over and over once we have mastered our ABCs. As we learn the lessons in grade school, we progress to Junior High and onto completion of High School where we graduate. With each grade we expand, we progress and we change. We master new skills, new understandings developing our social and emotional natures.
Life is evolving and so are you. Embrace change and allow life to become a joyful experience. If you are stuck and need help shifting out of fear, CALL ME, allow me to help you see the brighter side of the changes being presented.
Blessings ~ Bernadette ©2009