Brigid Bishop on Life, Love and The Art of Living

A License to Wed (Bridezilla II)

Well, things are all falling nicely into place for the wedding on Saturday.

This past Saturday was my Bacholerette Party and we had a wonderful time!

Today, Monday, June 4, I will be available for calls and callbacks for the remainder of the afternoon, this evening, and well into late night, but after that……very LIMITED availability.

Tying up all of the loose ends will be the balance of my week, so if you are looking for a Reading with me, I recommend you catch me today while you can.  I will be available to some degree for arranged calls for the balance of the week, but it is so crazy hectic I can’t even estimate how much I will be around.

Praying for good weather on Saturday, and happy that things are falling into place, and hoping that all of you will continue to make progress and experience good fortune as well!

I would like to Thank Everyone for their well wishes and continued support and hope to speak with you soon!

The Bridezilla in me has really calmed down, we got the license back on the 25^th of May, the Minister is ready to do our customized ceremony, I am walking down the aisle to “In My Life” by The Beatles with my oldest son, Justin, who is giving me away, my younger son Zachary is the Best Man, my good friend, Donna is my Matron of Honor and she is just so going above and beyond the call of duty that you can’t believe it!!!!  I really feel cared for right now and she has really shown me a lot about TRUE FRIENDSHIP over the last month!!!

I have really come to understand how caring some people can be and I am truly touched by it.

Frank and I have had a very complex, complicated relationship.  We have experienced nearly every difficulty a couple can expect to encounter over the past ten years, inclusive of a lengthy breakup, which I think was a necessary part of our growth.

As we enter into marriage at this stage in life, a second marriage for each of us, I think we enter it older and wiser and with an appreciation of the fact that marriage is not a goal, it is not crossing some sort of finish line, it is an entrance into a different stage of life and a different stage of relationship with its’ own set of challenges.

I realize that as we are older and we are committing to be together for the balance of our lives, that we are going to have to be here for each other when the time comes to exit this world, and that Frank being fifteen years older than me could well mean that I will have to, someday, go through losing him as I went through losing my father, but I am aware and prepared for that.  I have really thought this through.

There are difficulties also on his side of the family.  His adult children do not care for me due to the bitterness of his ex-wife, this will always be an issue, I don’t see it ever resolving, but I look at it as an issue that he must deal with and accept, which he does.  We have issues with my younger son that Frank has to tolerate.

All of these things and more are running through my mind, yet, I am still very happy and am willing to accept these inherent challenges as they arrive.  This was something that was absent in me when I married for the first time.

The morning of my first marriage I thought “If it doesn’t work out, I can get a divorce” (some attitude huh?  But that’s 22 year old thinking). 

As my “Real Marriage” approaches I think, “Whatever the Universe brings to us, we will face together” (twenty-three years of experience does lend itself to growth).

So, I am probably going to blog a lot more about relationships, etc., as time progresses after the wedding, and after the wedding my schedule is going to stabilize, I just thought I would share my premarital ponderings with you.

Bright Blessings!

Brigid Bishop