Wednesday, January 14, 2009 2:27 AM
by
Brigid Bishop
Be Careful What You Wish For...
Careful What You Wish For…
You Just Might Get It!
Isn’t it funny that when we DON’T have someone or something in our life, we idealize it to a point of obsession?
I can’t tell you just how many times this has happened, but it happens with a fairly frequent occurrence.
I receive a call, or a series of calls, from a querent concerning a relationship that is “On a Break”.
The break may be a few weeks, a few months, or perhaps even stretch out into a year, no matter, when we read together, in some time frame, we see reconciliation.
The problem is…
During the “On a Break” phase, no matter how I try to cajole and coax the querent to use this time to comparison shop and ENSURE psychologically and emotionally that THIS PERSON is truly the best match for them and WORTHY of all this pain and suffering, they, (in the majority of cases), do not move on, do not “investigate other opportunities” and remain obsessed with the ultimate return of the object of their affections.
The old saying “Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder” is true. It is frequently what makes the estranged lover return, and, conversely, is also likely to cause the jilted partner to idealize the absent partner in the wake of the break up.
In order to prevent copyright infringement, this
blog has been condensed to an excerpt as it currently appears in Brigid's book
"The Dating Game, Insights Into Affairs of The Heart" releasing in April 2010
and available at Amazon and fine book sellers everywhere. Ask for it by
name!
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