Brigid Bishop on Life, Love and The Art of Living

Bridezilla!

You know, I saw clips for that TV Show, and I thought that it was really lame, but now, counting down to my own Wedding Day next Saturday, I really understand how these women are stressing out and flipping out on the people around them.

It seems that when all you want to do is get the arrangements taken care of so that you can try to keep a reasonable schedule and some balance in your life, all hell breaks loose!

When I saw the commercials for those Bridezillas, I really thought, how obnoxious and self-centered they were…well, now, being in the midst of all of this planning and the anxiety involved with bringing together a few hundred people and making it a beautiful occasion, both aesthetically and emotionally for all involved, I find that I could easily turn into a Bridezilla Monster!

At this point, although I have thousands invested, I really wish that I had just eloped.

My first marriage, when I was twenty-two, was just a civil ceremony, no pomp, no circumstance, because it was a second marriage for my first husband and his children were young, and I was so foolish that I chose to keep it simple so as to “not upset” them or his ever-present ex-wife.

Now I regret it, and thus I chose to do a big traditional wedding this time even though it is a second marriage for both me and my husband-to-be.

I feel saddened because my father is not here to give me away, he passed on in ’05, and because I denied him that pleasure back in ’85 when I married the first time.

I feel saddened because my mother is elderly and she will only be able to attend briefly as she is frail and she tires easily.

I feel saddened that some of the people that I thought were the closest to me have let me down when I needed them here, at times like this you find out who your real friends are.

I feel worried about the weather, (it’s a garden ceremony), worried about the guests getting along, worried about my future stepchildren, worried about my own sons, worried about the catering, worried about how the families will mix, worried about how much money I have spent so far, and continue to find more and more unexpected or unplanned expenses, etc. etc. etc.

And of course, I am worried about my business as all of this preparation is taking me away from the hours I can normally work!!!

I am happy about the marriage itself, but in a way, I just wish it was over already and we could settle back into our domestic bliss, undisturbed, and no further attention required.

Speak with me on June 10^th and I am sure I will feel happy and satisfied with it all, but up until them, consider me a BRIDEZILLA!!!

*P.S.  Many of you have asked what you could do for me for a Wedding Gift, etc., so I am temporarily turning on my “Bonus Feature” if you would like to send me a Wedding Present….Thank You!!!