When Bad Times Bring You Down

 

Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, goes through bad times.  No one escapes the inevitable and leads a charmed life, no matter how it may look from the outside, we all suffer some type of negativity at some point in our lives, usually in cycles.  (It's life, no one gets out alive).

When we are riding high and things are going well, we may begin to take things for granted and tend to forget the difficult times, this is usually when minor irritations get blown out of proportion and we forget just how good our lives are.

Then the event horizon arrives and the world as we know it is thrown upside down.  We worry, we wish we could turn back the clock to before the event occurred and stop ourselves from partaking in actions that led to this disaster and suddenly, those little minor irritations become the threads that hold our lives together, we wish that our biggest worries were around those insignificant irritants, but it is too late, we have a problem to deal with, a real problem.

We may or may not have directly contributed to the negative event, but nine times out of ten, our actions had something to do with its arrival.

The Universe may be bringing us down off of our high horse to take a good look at everything that we have recently been taking for granted and start counting our blessings.

If you are in a negative cycle, pause, reflect.  Just how negative is it?  Do you have your health?  Are your loved ones safe?  Are you getting by economically?  What do you need to do in order to get back up on that horse (and ride it with a little humility this time).

Figure out what needs to be done and stop beating yourself up for anything you may have done to bring yourself to this negative space.  Put your energy into bringing the positive back into your life, it may be a long hard road, but you can do it.

Stop the behavior that led you here.  If you need assistance stopping that behavior reach out for it.  Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your friends and family, the worst thing that they can do is say no, or ignore your request, but summon the strength to ask.  You may be surprised to find that the people you think will help you will be apathetic and those who you think would not help you will jump to your aide.  It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help, it is a sign of strength.  To be able to swallow your pride and reach out is a very humbling experience, but it will build your character and it will also help you to be more appreciative of the blessings of the Universe when they cycle back your way again.

It is easy to slip into melancholy and even depression when things go wrong, whether we bring them upon ourselves or if they are brought upon us by an outside force, the art of living well is the ability to face the wave and subsequently ride it!

What destroys one person may well make another person stronger and better in the long run, even though on the outside it appears to be the same experience, the difference is being able to accept responsibility for our futures by using the present to regroup, rethink and relearn our priorities.

The Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away

 

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