Recently a client asked me, if my views on relationships
affected the way I saw outcomes in readings.
Firstly – I had to remind the client, that I do not make
long term predictions, due to my own life philosophy. I believe that we have
the power to affect the way we approach the eventual outcome, and this can
greatly alter your perception of it.
Secondly – I read perceptions of situations. By this I mean,
that I am an empath and that I see *your* or the person you wish to read his
worldview. I do this in several ways.
If I have a few minutes to do a reading, I will employ Tarot
reading techniques, which will be accurate, unless one has an unusual bias on
the situation. By unusual, I mean, not being open minded.
Secondly, if I have more time ( and I can sense the time a
person has for a reading ) I will use purely empathic ways to ascertain intent.
I do this simply by stepping into their soulprint or mind, and this is a more
emotional sense I have, which I simply cannot bias.
This method is sometimes more reliable than a Tarot reading
in ascertaining intent, as I get so much information during a Tarot reading (
intent, present events, possible outcomes and hopes and desires and analytical
information ) that to empathically connect gives me the purest sense of what a
person’s intentions are.
Thirdly, I will get ‘visions’ or imagery associated with my
readings, usually when I connect empathically to someone. These are straight
forward, and usually acknowledged by the client.
And most importantly, I tell you the truth in what I see.
One caller had had a seven minute call with me, and
complained about a result of a possible outcome, which had changed several months
later. This was despite the fact, that I tried to explain to her in the time we
had, that I do not make long term predictions – that I only see things in the
short term. She expressed that perhaps I had too negative of a world view on
relationships, and that she ‘hoped’ it wouldn’t affect my future readings.
A little on myself here: You cannot find a more optimistic,
and realistic reader than Carmen. I have traveled in many parts of the world,
and lived in many different places, making me very objective. This objectivity
is expressed in understanding of your current circumstances. I have expressed
before that I do not make predictions, but the moment a client finds out I am
accurate with the present, they usually try and coax a long term prediction out
of me. No amount of disclaimers will allow the client to ‘hear’ what I am
really trying to say….that it does not work with my personal philosophy to
corner a client into a long term hope or fear.
Without getting too personal about myself ( and I know you
were hoping I would be :)! )
I can assure you, that I am not embittered by my own
relationships, I have only grown into a stronger, more confident person because
of them. I will always accept a viable opportunity, but they are based on my
parameters and boundaries. These are not extreme – but trust, communication and
direction for the future are the most important things for me.
Many clients come to me in difficult times. I do not feel
that these difficult times define the client. They define a point of growth in
their lives. This growth can be a very positive thing. I do not believe in the
‘perfect’ relationship – but I believe in imperfection great satisfaction can
grow, and the sooner we let go of the myth of the ‘perfect relationship’ – or
in other words, the myth of ‘the perfect self’ the sooner we can accept our own
shortcomings and those of others.
This is to me a state of bliss, not a state of fear. Thus I
know, that once many of us have learnt from our mistakes, we will master our
own fears and grow beyond them.
So to the person who was ‘concerned’ that my romantic view
was tainted – let’s remember that advisors actually hear the truth about people
that they wont tell even their best friends – and that we are privileged in
learning from those truths. Rather than turning it into a point of despair, I
regard each client as a learning vessel from which I can glean good wisdom, for
myself, and the next client.
Maybe there is a perfect relationship out there – I don’t
know that answer yet – but I am open to it. Far from being narrow about the
lessons, I welcome them, and hope it will bring me closer to finding the truths
within people’s hearts, all so beautiful, even in the actions brought about by
fear or consequence.
I don’t think Advisors are jaded – I feel they are either
too optimistic ( and that’s a good thing too ) or realistically trying to help
*you* by telling you what THEY SEE – and not what they believe.
Thus is my
philosophy and remember this: If you are a good person – there are many good
people like you, out there, waiting to meet you.
Blessed be,
Carmen Miro Copyright 2008