A client of mine  had been needing to initiate a divorce, and with the support of a good female friend, he felt encouraged. This was that final push he needed to go ahead with it.

Since she was not single he never pursued a relationship, though they both developed feelings for each other. After their friendship had grown more intense, she suddenly pulled away. This happened around the time he formally initiated his divorce.

My client was left hurt and unable to let go of the pain she caused him at this time in his life. He is a loyal friend, and felt she should have been kinder to him, not just shut him out so suddenly and without explanation.

 One day he called me and told me that he had been driving on his way home from work, on a major commuting highway.

 Hundreds of thousands of cars were passing by. And lo, the one car he happened to drive up next to was that of that friend of his that had been tormenting him for the last few months!

 He asked me, what was the symbolism of this occurrence? Did it mean that this person was not going to ‘leave’ his life, or worse, he was forever haunted and taunted?

 We looked into the timing and steps leading up to the event.

*He ended up behind her car on the highway.

*He then had to pass her.

*She appeared not to see him.

*He then drove on by her, and along his way home.

 To me this was an interesting message for him, brought about by a synchronicity in motion (literally!).

I asked him, if this had been a dream, how he would have interpreted this event?

If it were a dream, I would have thought the events showed how he felt second to her, and was often being more of a support for her and being more vulnerable to by her being (by driving behind her).

He then passed her on the road – surely that showed that he was on his way to
finally letting go of her? She didn’t even really notice – or pretended not to see his car
on this highway – and was this not analogous to her real life behaviour, which was the avoidant personality type?

She now wishes to be friends again, but my client has rejected her friendship. It was her
indirectness and thus the lack of respect she showed for him, that drove him away (mind the pun)! She never seemed to acknowledge his pain in real life, so just like the symbolic
event that occurred in real life, her eyes were set on the road ahead of her, not seeing his pain. This was one of the many reasons why he chose to let her go.

 Many thanks for your story, dear client.

 

Copyright Carmen Miro 2007