Just what exactly is the "marketable age"?? According to radio host Tom Leykis and his disciples/drones of "Leykis 101", this term applies only to women who are under the age of 30 and below. His belief is that women have an invisible expiration date, that activates on the day she turns 30. Now I do not really find this to be shocking, but what I do find shocking is the droves of people who actually buy into this tripe.

First off, I have absolutely NO gripe with the Professor or his radio program. As a matter of fact I used to listen to the Tom Leykis show on a regular basis until they pulled it up here in the greater Seattle area. Tom Leykis himself claims that his show's specific purpose is to sell advertising. This show has indeed sold millions in advertising. In fact Tom Leykis is a multi millionaire because of his ability to sell advertising. You really have to appreciate his rags to riches story. The basis behind this disgustingly materialistic point of view is the belief that as men age their worth value increases and that of the ladies decreases.

This discussion was also posed on the Plenty of Fish dating site forums. I have to admit, I'm a forum junkie. At times I participate, but for the most part, I just read them and get highly entertained.

Now here's the real question...... What exactly are the attributes that makes a person marketable??? If I were to believe the above sentiments, I should have withered up and died several years ago. Now here's the deal, my supposed expiration date passed close to 21 years ago and I've got to tell you folks, I've had absolutely no problem getting dates or forming relationships. However, from my own observations I can tell you how a person makes themselves unmarketable or at the very least a hard to sell item.

We've all dated this person:

The whiner, nothing ever goes right for this person, they're always underappreciated and mostly invisible and they let you know it.

The bitter woman/man hater basher, whenever a relationship comes to a close it's always the other persons fault. They simply refuse to look in the mirror or take responsibility for their own side of the street. They go on and on about how badly they were treated by the "ex" non stop, until your eyes roll into the back of your head as you quickly reach that near catatonic state.

The self absorbed braggart, they always give you a million and one reasons why you should consider yourselves lucky enough to be seen in their presence. They've got the best of everything and have no problem letting you know this, the most money, the best home, the greatest car and the list goes on an on. The self absorbed braggart makes sure you know that he or she will be THE best lover you've ever been lucky enough to sleep with. This individual has no problem with their self importance and the whole world including you is well beneath them.

The abusive alcoholic/addict. The evening may start out OK until he/she has one too many and it goes downhill from there.

The needy clingon, Yes this person is already planning your wedding before the first date is over. You know the type, every time they go on a date, they spend the whole day before it telling their friends and family that they believe this is the one. You need to think for them because they are incapable of thinking for themselves. They are helpless without you as they just cannot go on. This is a short list as I can go on and on, but that's not really what this blog is about.

It is my own belief that we are ALL marketable, at any age. It really just depends on the package you are trying to market. Nobody wants to go on a date and have to deal with the above scenerio or others just as bad. We wish to meet happy people who enjoy living, not miserable people. Water seeks it's own level so it stands to reason, that if you have issues to work out, you're probably not as marketable as you would wish yourselves to be. Take a break from dating and and look deep within. Learn to love the person you are continuously becoming then when you are comfortable with yourselves you WILL be that highly marketable commodity whether you are 16 or 60.

 

Peace out friends,
Lizzy