First of all... I have to say, I absolutely love my brother, he's such a great guy. Out of the 5 brothers I have, Andy is my favorite and closest. We are 10 months apart, with him being my elder. But I have noticed something about him that disturbs me to such a great extent. Mostly, because I have looked in the mirror and have seen these traits within myself, as well as some of my closest friends and clients. Oh sure, I could have copped to the truth and made this all about me, but it's so much more fun to pass the buck and put the blame all on him. Payback for all of his childhood squealing to mommy disguised as protecting and keeping me safe, LOL!! By the way brother..... you will always have my thanks, like you have always had my back.

I know when I explain these traits of his (mine), a lot of you may have that bulb in your head light up and shine very brightly. He's a very charming Gemini, and when I say charming, you'll find his picture next to the word in the new Webster's dictionary. While we were growing up the girls in junior high and high school would seek out my friendship just for the chance that he may pick one of them to date. The epitome of "very cool dude"!!! All my girlfriends today in fact still "love" Andy.

I wrote a profile for him once on a dating site and gave him the username of "AndyPanda" with the catch phrase of "Just bad enough" explaining that although his bad boy days were long over, there was still just enough bad boy in him to make it interesting. All true as well.

Now unlike me... he's not a casual dater, he pretty much wears his heart on his sleeve. And ladies...... he's such a great boyfriend that I have such a hard time believing his idiot ex wives/girlfriends have actually broken up with him. OK OK, so I'm a bit predjudiced, but seriously, when I see and hear about some of the things he has done for the ladies, I wish that all ladies could end up with such a kind and loving man.  And now I humbly correct an error as was pointed out to me by none other than the star of this sessions blog.  Andy did infact divorce his wives.  But I might also humbly add that he is still on good terms with them both.  I know at least one of them doesn't deserve it.

So now we come to the light bulb part...... his girlfriend broke up with him about a week and a half ago, just before Valentines day. That's rough on any and all of you romantics out there. Now what made this especially sad for me, is how hard he's taking it. A few months back we discussed this relationship quite extensively. He did admit to me that he really didn't see this as a lasting thing. He hung in there though and treated her with both kindness and respect. He was there when her car was stolen and helped her get the rental car.  When her car was found and returned, he basically put it back together for her. He got a close friend of his to rent her his rental house and even helped her move into it, and still..... she pretty callously dumped him.

He did what a lot of my clients, close friends and even myself have done. We take all the blame and tear ourselves to pieces. "If only I were better looking" "If only I were younger", "If only I had a better body", If only had more money" etc. etc. etc. This list can go on for ever.

The truth is...... sometimes through no fault of our own, relationships just don't work out and the Universe has most likely done us a HUGE favor. Of course we can't see it at the time because being dumped hurts like hell. When he called me and asked me, "was he really that bad of a person??" I replied with this piece of advice that I will share with not only myself, but with all of us who beat ourselves down due to the actions or inactions of others "WE ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT WE DO TO OURSELVES!!!"

I am here and available for you 7 days a week and on most days 24 hours. I am both happy and able to help you find the clarity you seek.

Peace out friends,
Lizzy