I've recently discovered a one sided truth, and frankly it troubles me.  I know other readers will agree with me on this as well.  I often hear however......."But THEY hurt me!!!!"  OK I get that, I'm just wondering why, this has to be a one sided conundrum.  Why don't they even want to see what the other person might've gone through??? 

The simple explanation:))  A couple meets and hit's it off famously.  However, one of them has some unfinished baggage and unfortunately... starts to bring it into the relationship.  The other party starts hurting and takes a step back.  The unfinished baggage takes on it's full form of chaos and it now weighs even heavier on the relationship.  The chaos-less partner thinks long and hard about what is going on and cannot see an end.  Finally s/he makes the conscious decision to leave the relationship.  And..... what a painful decision that was.

Nobody likes or wants to hurt anybody on purpose, but it is a fact of life, people get hurt.  The party who brought the original chaos into the situation is usually stunned at the breakup and this is where it gets a tad bit tricky.  They refuse to step out of their self absorbed little box, long enough to see that this was most likely an excruciatingly hard decision to make.  The chaos-less, gave it all they had and saw no improvement in the matter and made the best decision for them selves.  See..... relationships are choices and if it is full of chaos and confusion, the wise wo/man will make the choice to leave even though they know it will hurt the other person.  It's kind of the lesser of two evils.  Stay and be miserable while the other person tries to figure it out, or........ walk away to save their own sanity.

Recently I made the conscious decision to bring my rates down to a very inexpensive price point.  I discovered something very draining to the soul.  It's something that I didn't come across very often at a higher price point.  That being......caller NOT happy hearing the simple truth, and feels they have every right to one star the reader and bash in the feedback.  The less you charge, the bigger the miracle the caller expects and if it's not what they want to hear, it's............"You couldn't be more wrong.... s/he is the one who hurt me.......... no connection, REFUND PLEASE!!"  Under these circumstances when the reader tells you "They don't want to be hurt again"..... it is important to step out of yourself for just one minute and look what the other party might have gone through before you selfishly pop off with........"But     THEY hurt me!!!!!"  Kindly, get over yourself please.  You won't be learning the needed lesson unless you do.

If we sound like we are counseling you???  Take that as kindness and an honest desire to help you grow and move forward.  We could be rude, but most of us aren't.  These are some definite points to ponder if you do not like hearing the truth.  We speak truth for your own good.



Peace out friends,
Liz