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Re-posted from a forum I'm a part of.

I feel a little guilty giving away the blanket my mother made me. When I was a college during my freshman year, my mother made me a rather hideous crochet blanket. It was one of the few bright spots of color in a drab dorm room and a little touch of home that came with me. It was also incredibly useful because the heating for those dorm rooms was terrible in the winter sessions.

Back in May, my friends had their home burn down. Just today, I sent a care package over to them. In it was the set of pots we were given as a wedding present and never used, an electric grill that was a Christmas gift that never even got opened, and several other things. For the most part, I didn't feel anything about giving these things away.

It was the blanket, however, that stings a little bit. now, we've got a lot of blankets. I kinda collect them. It started out because I get cold easier then most people and then it turned into an honest to god collection. I've got blankets and quilts from various people, including my great-grandmother, my great-aunt, and my aunt's late wife. We've even got a blanket that I made for my husband for Christmas last year. (I know he loves it because when i get chilly that's the first one he gets to cover me up with!) So, I had plenty of blankets.

My friends... they lost functionally everything. Sure, a few items survived the fire, but not much. I looked around and after discussing it with my husband, picked out items that we didn't ever use and could actually help them. I wasn't thinking much of it until I looked at my blanket collection. Some of these blankets have alot of meaning for me and giving them away would just crush me. I may be a wimp for it, but I just couldn't give away one of my quilts. (I gave them that huge comforter we had kicking around instead, which apparently is fine because they prefer those things.)

As much as Rose insisted that they didn't need a blanket, I knew that she was trying to limit some of the stuff they were given. When I spoke to Nate, I could hear in his voice that they had the bare essentials for their linens. So, a few good blankets was a must in my mind. One blanket was a moderately warm thing that I got at college for a few bucks. It was going to be embroidered with roses at one point. I never even did start that project. I didn't think anything of giving that one away.

But...

 I know that winter comes, they'll be needing a good warm blanket. The blanket that would break my heart the least to give away was the ugly thing that I brought with me to college. Now, it may sound funny, but in good conscience, I couldn't not give them a warm blanket when I had so many. I just sat there and looked at the situation and said to myself, "If I were them, how would I feel if my friend that had extra warm blankets kept them when I needed one?"

I'll kid you not, I felt a chill down my spine at that idea. So, I threw that ugly blanket on the pile of things for them. You see, I couldn't say no because in my mind, I saw their need and said that if I needed like that, it would hurt if someone who could give was stingy about it just because they wanted to keep a thing.

 
I don't know if it's weakness on my part that I can almost feel that pain myself when I think about it or not. I don't know if it's a weakness on my part because I feel a bit hurt because I gave away the blanket that my mom made for me.

I do know, however, that I did the right thing.
Published Saturday, July 12, 2008 8:28 PM by Cydira

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Sunday, July 13, 2008 12:42 PM by The Mathematician

# re: Re-posted from a forum I'm a part of.

Cydira,

Doing the right thing comes from our core, and yes, sometimes it hurts.  I highly suspect your mother would be very proud knowing that her gift to you...was passed on to another with love!  

You rock.  
Monday, July 14, 2008 6:21 AM by Cydira

# re: Re-posted from a forum I'm a part of.

Hi Mathematician!

I'm pretty sure Mom would be proud too. I will say that I think she'd be amused by my bit of upset over the blanket. I think I'll call her later today and let her know about it. If anything, she may have some extra stuff kicking around that could help too. And I know that she'd love a little more room at home too. :)
Monday, July 14, 2008 6:04 PM by Astarte

# re: Re-posted from a forum I'm a part of.

Thanks for sharing that with us - IT's very inspiring - So many have lost homes just recently do to flooding and wild fires -
When I divocrced, my ex asked for all the pictures - I said he could have the negatives - As he wanted more and more material thin gs I kept telling my lawer I don;t care as long as I get the kids I don;t care - Material possessions to my ex are everything andit's sad- MAterial things ccan and will be taken from us in the near future if it hasn't happened already - BUt as I taught my children through is order no one can take your dinity nor your memories.  So hold tight to the memories of the blanket and college days - Then think of all the new memories it is creating for a family in need - You are paying it forward in a big way - Your Mother would/should be extremely PROUD

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