Skip the Middleman
Everyone seems to have this middleman/event before they can be happy. I hear all the time "I will be so happy when George tells me he loves me" or "I would be so happy if I got a raise", "I will be happy when Tom leaves Jane for me" "I will be happy when I meet my soul mate and we get married" or winning the lottery, getting the new car, house, stereo, job. It goes on and on.
I have been guilty of that myself. For over a year I have lived in a home with orange and green American Indian symbols stenciled all over the walls, around light switches and over and around every window. I am part American Indian myself and to me this was hideous, tasteless, and very vulgar. Every time I went in the family room I could see it glaring at me. Finally I started painting over the offending stencils. I painted the walls in a plain, soft color. Wow, now I could feel happy walking into that room.......except that room connects to the kitchen and now I could see how badly it needs painting. My immediate thought was "Oh now I have to paint the kitchen before I can be happy in this room." Then I thought about how the kitchen connects to the dining room and then that room would need to be painted and that room connects to the living room (which also has the offending symbols over windows and doors, I just use it less so notice it less). Geeze it could take months to be happy.
I think we all need to skip that middleman, whatever it is...... and just be happy. When that thought occurred to me it was electric. I can be happy without the room being painted. I can even enjoy painting, not thinking of it as a chore. Not resenting the lack of having anyone help me in this massive project because I am the only one cringing at the the silly symbols.
With all the talk about the Law of Attraction, I need to get my secret middleman theory out of my head and just be happy. Only I was not really aware that I had had those "I will be happy when" thoughts and beliefs. I am now and just five minutes thinking about it showed me how many times I had played this game with myself. "I will be happy when this baby is born" turned into I will be happy when this kid stops sassing or graduates or gets his drivers license and on and on. Those events occurred and my happiness level stayed the same. There was always a new something to focus on.
I now believe that with all life's problems I can just relax and make a choice to be happy now. For me. No one else, just me. I know my old thinking will have to be overcome. Thats ok, just making the descion to be happy is a happy choice. It feels really good, it feels peaceful, why not try it?