Dont Build walls- Break them !
I have heard many folks say phrases like “he is like this “or
“she will never take the responsibility “or “he will never commit!”
I find this attitude to be a very limiting one. There is one
thing that continues relentlessly in our lives, and that is change. It is us
who choose to change for the worse or for the better. It is true that we as
humans are habit forming creatures and we can get ourselves in to a pattern of
thinking that can be detrimental to us. However this type of thought comes from
our inner apathy. Our laziness to move from a easy path we know.
There is a comfort zone that we have build around us, with
our easy way of life. Life works
for us in a certain way. This can be easier than change. However remember my
friends to develop oneself we “Have to” embrace Change. Without change the same
old patterns will exist. There is no point in you or me getting angry with God
for not blessings us, He has: He blessed us with wisdom. Let’s use it and move on.
The first attitude to take would be to think and ask for
positive change. In yourself or the person concerned. Yes if we are of habit
but just “eating too much of chocolate” habit, it can give you zits. Find
something else to munch .better still stop the munching learn to read a good
book instead , feed your brain not your stomach ! You can change your inner thought process and
also help others change theirs for the better.
After all we are all here to
help one another.
When we place ourselves under the caption’ like this” or
like that ‘we are limiting our horizons. We are then setting boundaries to
inner changes. When we pray and ask God to change a situation for the better
let us give time for the miracle to manifest. This also reflects in the same
way towards others.
We need to keep an open mind when it comes to change and
pray for a better way with each new day.
There are many ways in which we can implement these changes.
Remember each new day is a brand new beginning. How ever it is you that makes
that change. The choice to grow is within you and it is YOUR responsibility.
God gave us life. That’s enough of a blessing. How we shape it and how we
manage it comes from within us.
Now we can either choose Joy to make things happen. Or we
can choose grief to break our own foundation.
The way to change, is to change a pattern that you have
created. Once a lad told me “ I have told my old girl friend that we can only
be –just friends- so I know she is not looking for anything more now. “ However,
he still continued for two more years to hang out with her in the same way he
did before. And for two years she held on to the hope that he may change his
mind. In his mind he had told her. However since his pattern had not changed
the message he gave her with his actions remained the same. Not only did he
stop her from moving on to a better place her desires for him created a burden
to his energies, and sadness in her heart. My friends if we are enabling others
with our actions even when we have spoken the words, then we are still responsible.
My friends you want to make a change then do it also in your
actions not only in your words. Do it with love not hate. With compassion not
anger.
Another factor we can use to enable change is to look at
each new day as a new start.
Create each morning a new trend of thought that will over
ride the old. Change your attitude and change your prayer. You can have 365 new
starts each year. That’s pretty amazing!!!!! Don’t you think? Nothing in life
remains the same. What greater alter of thought can we build our lives on. What
greater joy. As long as there is life there is hope. And through God everything
is possible as long as it is in accordance to his will. So let us hope for not
only a better tomorrow but for a better start for all of us and for a new
refreshed world bathed in the morning dew.
Let’s take a chance on life, let’s make it real, let’s make
it new!
Take joy in your change and live a good life my friends. That’s
my hope and wish for you.
Blessings and light.
Your friend and advisor
Dilani