Divine Intervention: For Better or For Worse? You Decide.
I received an email yesterday asking me to address this topic, and while it is a vast topic, I will attempt to address it and narrow it down in a more concrete way. Divine Intervention: according to Wikapedia, is another term for a "miracle". Below is the answers dot com definition of "miracle":
mir·a·cle (mĭr'ə-kəl)
n.
- An event that appears inexplicable by the laws of nature and so is held to be supernatural in origin or an act of God: “Miracles are spontaneous, they cannot be summoned, but come of themselves” (Katherine Anne Porter).
- One that excites admiring awe. See synonyms at wonder.
- A miracle play.
Here are the different displays of "Divine Intervention" I've seen in many of you, that I'd like to address today (since these are the most common forms of it):
1) You waited patiently on someone you loved dearly, only to find out they were not in contact with you because they were secretly courting and pursuing someone else. You hear it, not from the person you love, but from someone else, that your loved one and the new girl are planning a wedding! You would have never heard from the person you love about the wedding, but you get the "signs".
You notice, on at the bus stop, that almost every passing bus has pictures of brides, engagement rings, or bridal dresses plastered all over them in unavoidable displays. You turn on your radio to avoid thinking of your soulmate, only to hear the song, "Going The Chapel" mockingly playing on three different stations you frequent. You go to work to check your email and then you hear your best friend's shocking voicemail: "Girl, you won't BELIEVE this! I just heard it from his boss that he is PLANNING A WEDDING!!".
In tears and shock, you call all the psychics on your list (all the ones that predicted you'd be back together), and call every single one of them to ask for an "update". Here are their responses, in order of your calls:
1) Madam Misapropos: "Girl, don't worry, be happy! I didn't tell you that part of the prediction because she's not even important! She FORCED that engagement ring outta him! He'll run any day now. Heck, he may leave her at the alter!";
2) Mistress Misinformed: "Ohh honey I am so sorry that I didn't pick up on her energy at all. I think the reason I didn't pick up on her is because it shocked him. She chased him and it was a sudden decision. He's not thinking rationally! He'll either not go through with it, or end up with an annulment!"'
3) Lady Not-So-Lucky: "Oh, are you sure that's right? Because I think that it's only a rumor. I bet you my bottom dollar, next week you learn that it's ALL hearsay!"
Meanwhile, a month later, your best friend gets a wedding invitation and you hear it from everyone in his office that he's "never been happier". Divine Intervention, does not always work out for the best. In many cases, it protects you from making one of the biggest mistakes you could ever make! Divine Intervention often feels really hurtful initially. Allow me to fast forward on the above referenced true story a bit.
Fast foward six months: After spending most of your 401K on the above referenced psychics, you finally call someone who says to you the truth about Divine Intervention:
Divine Dimensia: "Honey, please go ahead and let him go. You need closure. I am trying to give it to you. The Universe gave you all the signs before you found out about his engagement. He married. They intervened for you, and here in a few months, you will see WHY the Universe intervened. Yes, he is one of your soulmates. Yes, you could have been happy together. However, he isn't ready for marriage and you deserve happiness! He hasn't learned his karmic lessons, and he and his newly wedded wife will go through pure hell because of this! Would you want to be in her shoes when he up and leaves her? I assure you, there are reasons for the Divine Intervention. Wait not on him, but on real love from someone new. No, he is not going to give you closure. Only you can give yourself closure."
Client: "Divine Dimensia, I am calling back because I've met the most WONDERFUL man! It took me several months of pining and crying over Mr. Not-So-Right, but I've met this new man who I think IS Mr. Right! We've been dating a few months, and I couldn't be happier! I think that the Universe has intervened again, to keep me from waiting on my soulmate who is married. Oh wait, I forgot to tell you....he is divorcing her! I heard it from our mutual office buddies, that he has moved out and is seeing his secretary! I am soooo glad I didn't wait. I don't even want him now! He called me, as you all said he would, but I don't want him! All of this really was Divine Intervention. I would never have wanted to be in his wife's shoes. He would have left me, too, or cheated!"
The moral of the story: Divine Intervention isn't always such a wonderful thing initially. It doesn't always "feel" very great. It doesn't feel like the "miracle" that Wikapedia states is, especially during the time you are experiencing it. My advice on how to handle Divine Intervention:
1) Don't misinterpret it. Many of you have called to say, "I keep hearing this song over and over; I keep seeing signs everywhere about weddings, or I see street signs with his last name on it". It doesn't often have an obvious meaning, nor should you spend your time attempting to interpret it. Go about your daily life without dwelling on it;
2) Be still: in your mind and heart. Allow the Universe to play this all out for you. Trying to dwell on what it means by calling too many spiritualists for interpretations of it, only makes you dwell on the future, which prevents you from living in the present moment. This makes your outcome take LONGER than intended;
3) Be active: in body and energy. LIVE your life. Do things you enjoy. Focus on asking the Universe for love in whatever form Divine choses to send to you, even if it doesn't have your soulmate's name attached. Don't personalize the messages or the love being sent, just focus on receiving love. Visualize how you want to live your life. Begin to imagine yourself being happy with someone in general;
4) Prioritize! If love, for you, is not the priority, how do you expect the Universe to know to send it to you? If focusing on your soulmate has become your priority, and he or she is not ready, he or she won't come no matter HOW much you dwell or focus on it. Don't use the Law of Attraction improperly. It is mean to be used in ways that are healthy. Prioritize love by LOOKING FOR IT. If the way you were looking wasn't looking, CHANGE YOUR WAY OF SEARCHING. Yes, you have to search for love; and finally,
5) Don't expect the other person to give you closure! Even if he did tell you that he fell out of love for you because he still had feelings for the ex, was too afraid, the sex wasn't good enough, you smell like leftover cigarettes, you don't provide enough oral sex, you don't watch enough football or you ass was too big, would that information really make you feel any better? When a person doesn't tell you why they left or why they refused to even give you a chance with them in the first place, it's often not an answer you'd want to know about. Please give yourself the respect and closure you need by moving on and not focusing on the "why" of it all. The truth of the matter is, that it doesn't matter WHY. If someone is not there in your life for you, you need to move on.
Love won't show up at your door unless you are one of those very lucky young ladies who is wooed by the UPS man. Yes, it's happened, but not very often. Love will come to you when you prioritize and look for it (looking for it by putting yourself in the same place and time as your desired soulmate won't work, that's called dwelling). If joining match dot com is too generic for you and isn't working, try something different. If the singles group at your church isn't working for you, try eharmony dot com.
It doesn't matter what you try as long as you keep changing it up, trying different things, changing your life, your interests and your OLD ways of living, until you feel better about who you are as a whole, and about what love means to you. Sometimes, the Universe wants you to accept that you may be alone. In these rare cases, it is frightening. You will feel bitter about this. You'll look around and say, "Everyone else seems happy; everyone else has someone, everyone else has families, everyone else found someone after a breakup, why not me!" Until you accept the fact that it is perfectly acceptable to be in love with yourself, and to find love in other ways, love will not often come.
If you've tried every way under the sun to find love, and it just doesn't happen for you, then you might be in the latter category. If that's the case, accept it in peace. Release your pain over being alone, and begin to fall in love with YOU. Woo yourself! Take YOURSELF out to dinner, make dates for YOURSELF. The rare customers I find who are able to accept this do end up finding love later in life.
I don't have the answers, normally, regarding why you had to go through this. Perhaps you have karmic issues left over from a past life and you're sorting through in this lifetime. Perhaps your specific life blueprint says you will find happiness, but not until you're fifty. Perhaps it also says that you alone can change this, if you accept being alone, let Divine Intervention occur without regret and happily embrace life, finding love within the early blooming morning glories, the laughter of the children on the passing school bus, or from your elderly mother who cherishes the love you give to her every time you visit her and allow her to cook that treasured potroast recipe passed down from your great grandmother.
Perhaps the traditions past down from generation to generation in your family, will be something you enjoy and treasure, and perhaps the love you feel in your family will replace the hole you feel romantically, until the Universe intervenes once more and finally sends Mr. or Miss. Right. Perhaps the "soulmate" you seek is the child you saved from the streets by adopting him out of the foster home.
My point is, that Divine Intervention, although often misunderstood, will happen whether you understand it or not. Love often shows it's array of colors via unexpected rainbows that happen at many inopportune moments in life. However love presents itself to you, accept it no holds barred. Be open to Divine Intervention. Embrace life. Embrace love in whatever form the Universe sends that is healthy for you. Only then can you understand Divine Intervention.