And Sometimes you do NOT need to re-visit a situation.....
SO it's OVER again.......(again being the operative word) and you are AGAIN devastated....how many times does it take when a person is hot and cold, on and off to FINALLY get IT?
Sheesh, sometimes it takes a few times to figure it out....we may want to believe the words as even if the actions do not match them....because actions take a little longer to translate than words especially IF the words you want to hear are not being matched by the actions or non actions.....
And then what to do, what to do? I recommend a few things RIGHT off the bat...take him/her OFF your buddy list...... Yes, I KNOW that might be hard, but it WILL make it easier for you, even if you think that it will take away your perception of being in control of a situation. But believe me, if it was an on and off thing, you did not have the control anyway. It will help if you are not aware of their comings and goings.
Leave their facebook page alone, and do NOT call that number to listen to their voice....stalking does NOT go un-noticed, it may for a while, but you are only torturing yourself anyway..... there are so many people who will be mean to you, why on EARTH do YOU need to do it to yourself?
CHANGE your RINGTONE, honest, if you hear that SAME tone, you will think it's the phone call you are not supposed to be waiting for!! A new RING TONE will do the trick, honest, it WORKS.
Call in the troops, have your bitch session ( or male bonding session over a football game) and do not over use the ears of your friends if you want to keep them your friends....that can be very draining if it goes on over weeks....
Keep yourself busy, maybe try get a new quilt or bedroom set, maybe paint your bedroom ( apparently it's bad FENG SHUI if you move on to bachelors number 2 or 3 with those same sheets you used with bachelor number 1!!) Who KNEW?
And most of all, do NOT rush out to replace someone too quickly, that's only a recipe for disaster.... if you are not over bachelor number 1 ( or bachelorette number 1) then you will not be emotionally available to welcome in a REAL relationship and the LAST thing you need is to have more complications.....too much stuff in a recipe ruins it!!!
Joan
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