As a Reader I am often torn
when I am reading for a caller that has had their emotional life turn chaotic because of too many readings from too many readers which after weeks, months or years of getting a prediction the same all of a sudden that prediction is no longer what the caller is being told. And I have talked to people where all of the readings have caused more pain for the caller than the situation itself. I know that when I read, I try to be kind in delivery and since I am told I have been a difficult client myself at times, I try to be understanding when a person is really struggling with coping with emotional overload.
And that makes me wonder?
What could cause a prediction to make a 180 degree turn?
I know that I have been wrong, no matter how much we strive for accuracy, we can and will get it wrong sometimes....
I know in reality that we do not make plans for everything in our lives and I know that we love to be able to change our minds at any time about anything and that is our right, as it is the right of others.
Was it the caller who changed the prediction by actions or not acting in a situation?
Was it the reader who was reading the hopeful energy of the caller and not the reality?
Was it a combination of both?
What we do need to remember is that things do not just happen, we have to work on ourselves all of the time. That guy or job is not going to skydive onto our lawn, and if we are willing to put up with crumbs from our love interest, that is all they will give us. We will get rejected by lovers and potential employers, such is life. Get back up, and try again, and keep trying that is the only way things will change We need to know that if someone tells us they do not or cannot give us a relationship, we have to take them at their word.
And as a reader we have to take a stand IF the prediction has not occurred and try to look at what could be done at that point if that prediction does not manifest in a reasonable time frame or that time frame keeps moving...
If their words and actions do not match, listen to the actions even if they are harder to translate. We all have to know and take responsibility for our part in the mess we may find ourselves in, and see that by our tacitly accepting the terms of another while not being happy about it may result in our lover not taking us seriously. As in sleeping with them when they have told us they are not ready for a commitment, as in being available every time they call us. Calling them when they do not call us. Doing more of the work than they are all contribute to this kind of misunderstanding. And then the drama comes, the threats and ultimatums and the other person is mystified, thinking well we were sleeping together, I thought all was good, what the heck is this? And the back and forth all the while whipping up the emotions to storm force and the same thing happens again and we think to ourselves, how did this happen? Well it was you, yes YOU who caused this..... how painful to have to look in the mirror and admit I was too afraid to let go that I held on pit pull style.....
First be honest with YOURSELF. I have heard so many people make excuses and tell themselves, me or others they ONLY want to see this person once or twice a week but they do not want a relationship ( but to MOST, that IS a relationship)... Clarity in a situation can only be achieved if you are honest with yourself first. And embracing the fear of losing someone by not holding on so tightly as we can never lose someone or something we never had.
We do not get all of the answers we seek when our need to have them overwhelms us so much we become almost obsessed I feel that that alone can affect the quality and validity of the reading. Somehow when we just allow things to be while not trying to control a situation or person they can be what they have potential to be rather than us forcing someone to be ready.
There is no one size fits all when it comes to readings, and there is no one who will ever be 100% accurate.
Readings should used as a guide or compass, and we should temper our rate of calling and watch becoming dependent on them, it is not good for us. You can change your mind at any time about anything.... and so can others...
Joan
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