Be honest-You're not that into him either......
We have all heard about He's just not that into you and the message that someone is sending you when they do not call, when they do not return your calls or texts....sometimes it's hard to hear that message, because it is not the message we want to hear so we ignore it. Some times we think we want to hear the words, but think about it, how hard would it be for YOU to call someone and say I don't want to see you again.... and put yourself in the position of others when they want something to just end quietly without fuss rather than any big confrontation.... People sometimes say what what they do not mean, and do not mean what they say all of the time and after all we are ALL human. Passive agressively is how people deal with those kinds of situations...
Sometimes we lower our standards without knowing that we have done so......Now here is the catch.... Do we like being intimate with someone? Hell, YEAH! It is our right to persue pleasure, however at what price? Now HE may be getting something out of the bargain? But what are YOU getting? Reality is that the the sexually empowered behavior of women that has created men who have come to expect that and nothing more from women. However can women really just sleep with someone and not fall for them? Sometimes, yes, but we have to be aware that we may well be contributing to the situation that we complain about ....... Now am I saying do not do it ? NO! You are the one with the power to choose. Sometimes that is all a man can handle and he may be honest about that but sometimes a man will want to delay being intimate with someone he could care about. Now if both of you can handle that, then you GO girl..... but is that really the case? Are you being honest with yourself about that?
Then we have the EBG ( everything but sex girl) who may think that she is saving herself from the kind of emotional issues that full intercourse may open her up to.... but you are the only one who can define sex..... and what that word is and means to YOU.
Men and women have sex in different ways, there is a natural increase in hormones that tilt you towards caring about the person, that damn dopamine!!! And oxytocin which is a powerful thing that causes the woman to become attached to the object she has just slept with. Now you can try to treat sex casually but it does not reciprocate, sex matters, so be honest with yourself about why are you doing it in the first place....So use sex wisely and use it well.
Watch this space.......
Joan