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Client Shopping......

To continue on with Donna's (Gifted 11) theme regarding the exchange of energy that takes place in a reading. So continue on that theme if you don't mind....

We as advisors need to be ethical, honest not to mention judicious in using integrity in honoring the gift we have been given to be able to read. When we email clients  telling them that we have a *message* for them, we are only perpetrating the idea that some people already have of gypsy type readers who are only there to basically steal your money. We need to adhere to a stricter moral code and never mislead ANY caller about what we can and cannot do for them regarding their situation whatever it may be. Do we really want to continue to operate in the shadows of mainstream life when we can with our gifts operate in the honest open manner that we could ??? I know that I don't want to operate in the seedy underworld of gypsy style readers, do YOU?

We do not NEED to be soliciting for clients, if they want us or need us they will be guided to call us and that would be better than emailing them to have them call us...

We do not *need* anyone to burn a candle for us, meditate for us while keeping us on the phone. We do not *need* anyone to help us feel better, *WE* are the only ones who have the power to do that for ourselves, others may make us *feel* better for the moment, but that will never last until we learn NOT to become emotional vacuums of need and drag on the energy of others.

No one will change after a few days, when we have PULLED on them emotionally, they will NOT want to be in your company or your energy as you have produced an uncomfortable emotional reaction within them that they may not be able to name but they *FEEL* so strongly that they do not want to deal with you or it. This may have taken place without a word being spoken but it is just as strong.

So NO amount of hashing and re-hashing any issue will change it instantly, no amout of emotional manipulation will change things. No amount of passive agressive pushing will produce the outcome unless the other person has done the growth they need to do, and or unless YOU have grown the way you need to be. You should not NEED someone so much that you allow them to control your emotions, you are giving him the power, YOU need to be in control of your own emotions.

I suppose that was somewhat of a rant but I needed it :-)

Joan

 

 

Published Sunday, December 02, 2007 9:53 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: Client Shopping...... @ Sunday, December 02, 2007 9:42 AM

Joan,

I really appreciate you telling it like it is in your blogs.  I agree with you, there are standards of professionalism to uphold, and as a  somewhat of a new reader here on Keen, I really resonate with your statements to be honest and ethical as readers.

thanks,
Amy

AmyArcana

# re: Client Shopping...... @ Sunday, December 02, 2007 9:46 AM

i personally tell my callers to have 3 to 5 advisors that they trust on their favorites list. i have learned that all of us have something great to offer and we all have a different perspective. when i had a family crisis i had four advisors help me to figure it out because i was too close and too emotional with my family issue. i am so grateful to them and i still call them if i can not clear out my personal involvement in an issue.
i am also a counselor, a coach  and i love to give strategies for dealing with life. i realize that each of us will have a frenzy moment and we will call many advisors but then we get to a calm place and we do not have to call so much. it is ok to have ups and dwns and need to be grounded.so many keen advisors are excellent at being a support system.
so many callers have no one to talk to and so we are important to them. hopefully we respect them and do not exploit them.

askdrdonna

# re: Client Shopping...... @ Sunday, December 02, 2007 10:03 AM

If we are calling to *feel* better then we are not calling for a psychic or tarot reading, and that is a different issue altogether. Instant fix readings are not my thing. My point was that as an advisor, we do not need to send soliciting emails asking clients to call us, if they want us they will call us. I do not find I have frenzied moments anymore, I do not depend on others to make my choices or my decisions for me nor do I need to figure out ANY issue that is presented to me RIGHT NOW, and I find generally that works better for ME. Once things calm, I have no need to manipulate or control and I know that things will work out for  the best in the long term and pushing in any way to solve something or get the answer now does not work for me anyway.
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Client Shopping...... @ Sunday, December 02, 2007 11:10 AM

Joan, we will continue to evolve, those that are being of the truth, those that will not tolerate uncalled for behaviors that do not speak truth and coming from the right intentions.

Funny, when I had belonged to forums, I had seen some people speaking about others, and really showing a side of disrespect. A complete opposite of what anyone would of expected from them.
That had taught me, to research better, to not take what one may say on the outside, and hold to that to tightly.Don't react to what people are saying as much of observe more.

It taught me that forums, have alot of lower vibrations and when you reach a peak you would have to move on, you would know when your time was up.
That goes for anything, when your time has come full circle you will know it is time to move on.
We are not meant to stay stuck, and rehash and rehash, until we run out of words.
Always moving, always motion, take what you need and move on with honor.

Much Love,
Donna

GIFTED11

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