Don't even think about it.......
I have to say this, I do not know why people just cannot leave situations alone rather than push and push to get the outcome you want by manipulation, drama, threats, stalking and or passive agressive behaviors.
If there is one thing that is certain, you will never get what you want if you attempt to manipulate a person for instant gratification and trying to control it as that will never last.
Going behind someone's back in order to control a situation is never healthy. Stalking them by calling their home to check their messages, never a good idea and you may be found out. Looking for information on them, never a good idea and you may not be able to trust in the information you get, my advice is consider the source before you do ask. But I would advise you not to ask in the first place.
If you are making all the calls, plans, suggestions, then consider takings a step back to allow them to step up and if they don't, take their behavior as telling you they are nto ready to be where you might want to be with them.
All of that kind of behavior whips up the nervous energy and makes this feel uncomfortable for the person which may drive them to push us away, which will cause more panic and more irrational behavior, so take a deep breath, keep yourself busy and just allow this to *BE* as this too shall pass,
Joan