Expectations.........
They are always going to get us into trouble, because while we are busy having them, others are busy catering to their own agenda which does not inculde our expectations of them and are blissfully unaware of our expectations of them.....
In oder to get what we want ( or expect) we have to identify our expectations, first to ourselves and then to the person we have them of... And even doing that gives us no guarantee that our expectations of that person will ever be met.
We have expectations of our friends, loyalty, is one major one that will not always be met....
We have expectations of our lovers, loyalty, having similiar goals for the relationship, honest and open communication, which again may not always be met.....
We have expectations of readers, honesty, accuracy and that the predictions come true.... those expectations may not always be met either.
How much responsbility do we have to assume in these expectations not being met? Have we been loyal to those friends we expect loyalty of ? Have we met these friends for a lesson in our lives? Do we expect more of others than we are willing to give? Have we been honest with ourselves about the clues we are getting from our lover? Are we open and honest in our communication? Are we passive aggressive in manipulating them to push our own time frame and agenda on the relationship? Do we snoop on them? Do we violate and abuse their boundaries? DO we expect too much, too soon? Do we push when we do not get it? Are we unrealistic in our expectations? Do we lie, cheat and manipulate to get what we want? If we are busy doing that, can we entertain the possibly the other person is doing the same? After all we attract what we are into our circles and lives....
Are we honest with our advisor? Do we expect them to be all knowing and seeing? Is that realistic? Do we not have to take responsibility for the choices and actions we make or take that may affect an outcome after any reading we have? Do YOU plan the day and time you are going to make a phone call? I know that I do not. Is it not unrealistic to expect another to accuratly predict the day, hour and minute that another person will pick up a phone?
Use your readings to get a glimpse of what has the potential to happen not what is going to happen to the minute detail, as things will never ( altough I should never say never) happen exactly as they are predicted, it just does not work that way...... in my humbe opinion..... but I wish it did :-)
Joan