Expectations.......
They
are always going to get us into trouble, because while we are busy
having them, others are busy catering to their own agenda which does
not include our expectations of them and are blissfully unaware of our
expectations of them.....
In order to get what we want (
or expect) we have to identify our expectations, first to ourselves and
then to the person we have them of... And even doing that gives us no
guarantee that our expectations of that person will ever be met.
We may want people to be able to read our minds....it's just not possible for them to do so....and know and be aware of what we want or need from them, saying it straight out could bring what we want or need from others....
We have expectations of our friends, loyalty, is one major one that will not always be met....
We have expectations of our
lovers, loyalty, having similiar goals for the relationship, honest and
open communication, which again may not always be met.....
We have expectations of
readers, honesty, accuracy and that the predictions come true.... those
expectations may not always be met either.
How much responsibility do we
have to assume in these expectations not being met? Have we been loyal
to those friends we expect loyalty of ? Have we met these friends for a
lesson in our lives? Do we expect more of others than we are willing to
give? Have we been honest with ourselves about the clues we are getting
from our lover? Are we open and honest in our communication? Are we
passive aggressive in manipulating them to push our own time frame and
agenda on the relationship? Do we snoop on them? Do we violate and
abuse their boundaries? DO we expect too much, too soon? Do we push
when we do not get it? Are we unrealistic in our expectations? Do we
lie, cheat and manipulate to get what we want? If we are busy doing
that, can we entertain the possibly the other person is doing the same?
After all we attract what we are into our circles and lives....
Are we honest with our advisor?
Do we expect them to be all knowing and seeing? Is that realistic? Do
we not have to take responsibility for the choices and actions we make
or take that may affect an outcome after any reading we have? Do YOU
plan the day and time you are going to make a phone call? I know that I
do not. Is it not unrealistic to expect another to accuratly predict
the day, hour and minute that another person will pick up a phone?
Use your readings to get a
glimpse of what has the potential to happen not what is going to happen
to the minute detail, as things will never ( altough I should never say
never) happen exactly as they are predicted, it just does not work that
way...... in my humble opinion..... but I wish it did :-)
Joan