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How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

Feedback is...
a personal thing. What one thinks of as bashing may just be another expressing an opinion of their perspective of the interaction. Two people will never leave the salad bar with the same stuff on their plate. Two people may express their sides of an interaction from a completely different perspective and both can be right even if they completely differ, such is the human condition....
However anger and bitterness does seep through when that feedback is read by anyone as the written word may not fully express the tone of the words which may come across as harsher than it was intended. It may come across as a personal attack on that reader. Not to mention that if all of the readers other feedback is positive that may in fact make the client look badly so if you want to express your perspective as is your right as a paying customer there is no need to name call, or sound bitter, it negates what you have to say and may in fact prevent other readers from taking your calls, if they fear that you will do the same thing to them.
I personally do not avoid taking calls from callers who have left negative feedback, as that may not be my experience with that caller. And I know and understand what it is like to wait for a call, spend more than I had intended. I just chose never to leave negative feedback.and I know that I was a difficult client but instead of waiting any more, I chose to learn and grow from all of  that pain and I thank some of the dedicated readers who helped me through that time.
Joan
 

Published Monday, September 03, 2007 10:20 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: Feedback is... @ Monday, September 03, 2007 8:52 AM

Dear Joan,
Funny, I just happened to do my daily blog scroll (one of my procrastination rituals as I sit down to work, LOL) and found this. I am always happy to see when you update your blog. I hope you know that for me, and I suspect for many of us here, YOU are one of those dedicated readers who have guided us through difficult, dark times. You have  amazing generosity and humility on top of your gifts as a reader b/c of your personal experience and you are one of 2 people here who have really gone being beyond a reader or even an advisor to being a source of support through your cards and interpretation and intelligence and empathy.
THANK YOU.

Fiore

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