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How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

Frustrations...
I know and understand how it feels when our loved one is saying one thing and doing another. And how easy it is to listen to the words and not look at the actions IF the words are saying one thing and the actions are saying something else. And I know how this time of year is difficult when we are let down by the call that was promised and does not occur on time or the person who has promised us something has not yet kept their word to us.
However calling when you want to do the reading for yourself, or you want to argue about each thing that is said, or simply because you are frustrated at the non contact or lack of action of another will not produce a good reading.
And is likely only to produce MORE frustration for both you and possibly the reader you have called. We are not here to argue, we will tell you honestly what we see, we will only tell you what we see and if you do not like what you hear, it is always possible that you can change that. Nothing is set in stone, and transferring your frustrations from the person who has caused you the pain to the person who is trying to help guide you to why or how this could be happening is never a good idea and will sometimes result in a reading that might not be of the highest quality. So try to calm yourself before you get a reading, try to be open to what does come up, and try to understand that the actions of another or non actions may not be necessarily about you so much as the other persons manner of dealing with the situation. And know that what is today, may change tomorrow and panicking or taking our frustrations out on another will not change anything and may in fact make them worse in the long term.
Joan

Published Tuesday, February 02, 2010 4:35 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: Frustrations... @ Wednesday, December 23, 2009 11:12 AM

Excellent advice Joan.  It is so difficult to grasp the concept that anger fuels despair and that attacking others will not take the pain away from your heart when a loved one has let you down.  Getting a reading when your angry is probably one of the worst mistakes because anger clouds true intention and Advisor's really have a difficult time wading through the anger to get to the heart of a matter.  Like you advised, it is best to get grounded, focus on your intent before calling and have logical questions ready before you call.  Be prepared for information that may not fit your desires at the moment.  Sometimes the news may not be what you want to hear but it may be news you need to hear.

Great blog Joan as usual.  Thanks for sharing it with us.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: Frustrations... @ Thursday, December 24, 2009 4:24 AM

It is pointless to call when you are only wiling to hear what you want, it serves no one, not you and certainly not the reader you have called. People will get frustrated when they tell me, you did not answer the question and that's usually because you can ask any question, and some of the time what you need to hear will come up as opposed to what you asked about. And when we look back, that does turn out to be what was needed at the time. Some of the time, the answer is not available to us and the knowing at that time could prevent what the universe has planned for us. And I have found that the universe really does know better even if we do not share that opinion. Sometimes it works out to be better if we do not know, as the knowing makes us want to control the outcome that may not be ours to control.

Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Frustrations... @ Wednesday, January 06, 2010 9:19 AM

Love this! thanks Joan!
cathy d

cdefranc

# re: Frustrations... @ Tuesday, February 02, 2010 7:38 AM

I agree with Rosie. Having a reading when you are angry is one of the worst times. Readings are about new infromation, new insight. Its very hard for us to absorb when we are angry. It does not help the Readee, or the Reader. Good Post!

Madea-Michelle

# re: Frustrations... @ Tuesday, February 02, 2010 2:42 PM

I learned that the Hard way :-(

Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Frustrations... @ Tuesday, February 02, 2010 3:07 PM

Well said, Joan! Thank you! I find when a client is really emotional it can produce "static" in a reading. Since I place a circle of protection around me each time I sign on before reading, I'm ok and sense the feelings rather than feel them. But it does affect the clarity of the reading, as if looking at a picture through "snow" on old TVs.
Thanks for sharing!
ASTRO Danti

AstroDanti is now Danti OC

# re: Frustrations... @ Tuesday, February 02, 2010 4:19 PM

Readings are an exchange of energy...so it is important to try to be open to what you are hearing...even IF you think it is not possible, even if you think that is NOT the way it is...
things can and do change ALL the  time
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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