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How do you...........

deal with a caller who has called you once, and over a year ago, and now emails looking for free minutes? That call was almost 18 months ago and  I did a free 5 minute reading for her. At the time there was only free minutes used. I do not mind doing readings at all when there is no money involved and I do that for many callers on a regular basis for clients whom I have built up a relationship with, however I cannot do that all the time, and if she had found me so wonderful the last time why did she not call me back even for three minutes in the meantime??? Then today she contacts me looking for free minutes again, her name did not ring a bell so I looked at her customer information and there had only been that one call, and no contact in the mean time....
So for the first time I emailed the caller back and said that I would not be giving her free minutes since she did not add to them last time, had not called me since and she would not expect a free haircut so why should she expect me to do readings for her for free?
I can and DO send free minutes on a regular basis, I send follow up emails, I go above and beyond on many levels when I read but there has to be a line drawn somewhere and I just did it......

Joan

Published Saturday, July 07, 2007 4:07 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: How do you........... @ Saturday, July 07, 2007 6:15 PM

Ok, move over Shirley, I'm a comin' out on this limb with you. (O:  For a visitor who only uses free minutes I would tell them that you have paying customers who deserve those minutes and they will be getting them. End of story. Wrap it up in big love and send that message off. (O:

Angelfire

# re: How do you........... @ Saturday, July 07, 2007 8:17 PM

Dear Joan:
I am getting like that also.  I always give free minutes with every call at the beginning but I am curtailing giving them to those that never call and only use free minutes to contact me.  At first I felt really bad because my nature I am a "giver" and if I had only $1 and someone needed it I would give half to them but I do need to work and earn a living also.  So I am getting a little less apt to just give free minutes to all who ask.  Just know that you are not alone with this problem honey and that we all are having to decide where to set the boundaries.
Blessings of joy to you
Rosie

Rosalea

# re: How do you........... @ Sunday, July 08, 2007 12:33 AM

I am also a giver, and I felt guilty after I fired off that email, but I had already done four free five minute readings that same day with no minutes added but all of those clients have had previous readings with me even if only one paid reading prior to their free five minute reading. Like I said, I can and do send many sets of free readings, I do email follow ups regularly( which I know many readers will not even finish a sentence for you after the reading if it cuts off in the middle). And I can and will send minutes regularly, but if you do not email me unless you are looking for free minutes and only once every 18 months then I do not feel as if I should be only used when someone wants a free reading. When you tell someone what you do, they usually invade your boundaries by asking you to read them right then and there....as if you know it all and anyone knows that is not necessarily the truth of the matter. It's a fine line...

DruidsGlenTarot

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