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How far should you go..............

in response to a blog to get your point across?

I personally do not delete blog responses from people who disagree with my blog entries. I respond to them and explain my position again but never delete. I know for a fact that many do as several of mine have been deleted and never posted despite my being polite and expressing my opinion of their blog that was different to theirs expressed in their blog entry.

I have however seen some doozies where the spelling was commented on in that instance and only spelling ( now spelling poorly is a pet peeve of mine) however I feel that if that is all that is commented on and not the substance of the blog then that is unecessarily harsh, and in the particular blog I am referring to I did not agree with the substance as it spoke to another pet peeve of mine the percentage of accuracy....... I have NO idea how ANYone could measure that kind of thing???????? And I chose not to comment on either..

So how rude is acceptable when expressing your opinion about anothers blog?

joan

Published Tuesday, November 27, 2007 6:57 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 5:22 PM

Joan
I saw a spelling comment the other day & thought to myself....the world is a harsh place sometimes isn't it? Even in blog world, people like to point out flaws of another.
Being a writer and English major way back when, spelling errors pop out at me, but then...do I really care about someone else's spelling errors enough to correct them in a public forum...I think not :)
If the day comes whenthat is all I have to say...please shoot me and put me out of my misery ;)

Light and Love

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 5:48 PM

ooops sorry for the typo~my bad ;)

Light and Love

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 5:49 PM

Bad spelling and grammar really catches my eye and English being a difficult language in that it has words that have different spellings yet sound the same yet have different meanings. So while it would make me question whether to call that reader, I would not point it out to them in a public forum. And Yes the world is harsh but like you said if that is all you have to say then skip the keyboards....
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 5:58 PM

What is apparent to the popular demand is people hiding under made up names, to insult someone on their own blog. Never mind,  about forums, I have seen how the forum here works as well, a huge contaiminated black hole, I am so glad I am out of there. People would be greatly surprised by the verbage and content in those holes.

The energy is building Joan and you can feel the "rise" those getting ready to burst.
I go by my feeling if I am guided to place no comments I do, If I do feel off balance with someones energy I delete, if I know their intention is not true.
Thats just me....
xxxDonnaOOO

GIFTED11

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 6:08 PM

I saw that comment as well and was shocked.  How cold can someone be?  Is this another advisor?  Sad.

I think we should only respond to a blog if we have something to say - something that is actually constructive.  I get so much good information from some of these blogs here, others I never read.  I always go on my gut as to what I need at the time.

I am doing my very best to become the soul I was meant to be.  There is no room in my life for negativity any longer, so I try to bypass it.

Love to you wonderful ladies on this blog tonight.  You all make a difference!

Kelly

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 6:58 PM

Did I miss something on that pet pees blog?  I didn't see anyone in particular insulting anyone in particular. I wish to remain incognito, I'm not a reader nor a client. I just happened by this Keen site as I am an observer of human nature. A lot of these blogs are fun to read.

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# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 7:13 PM

Dear Joan:

I can relate about the spelling and sometimes I involuntarily cringe when I see it because my Mother was a school teacher and she was a tyrant about language and writing.  I don't really judge anyone however because of their writing skills or the use of language.  I would like to address the topic that Donna brings up about using aliases on Keen.  I personally have had a horrific experience with using my correct name online and I choose not to do so ever again.  I know if someone really wants to find out they will but I don't put my picture or families picture online for safety reasons.  If anyone is ever stalked and harassed by those not in their right mind will tell you that it is not always smart to reveal a lot about you or your family online.  Having said that I also try to live by the rule of "do no harm" to others so I don't delete comments on my blog and I try to respond to each of them.  I am my "brothers keeper" and I think we all need to show more respect for others opinions also.  

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 7:18 PM

Sorry for the earlier typo, should have been peeves not pees. How embarrassing. You are right about not using your real name. With identity theft and stalking going on.

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# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 7:31 PM

I have a pet peeve about pet pees. :-)
This was not about the pet peeves blog, it was an observation about another blog an advisor wrote that one of the comments only mentioned the spelling and nothing else. I agree about identity theft but I am not sure that Donna was speaking about that kind of issue, merely readers calling other readers on keen and using different names to attack in feedback, forums and blogs. That is different than using your real identity on line and having that abused by someone which is a REAL danger these days.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Tuesday, November 27, 2007 8:51 PM

Dear Joan:
Oh I agree with Donna entirely about the bashing.  It is so very sad when someone feels the compulsion to harm others. We all see and can pretty well isolate the ones that do that and I just wonder if they are not embarrassed that others know what they are up to. I don't think I could look myself in the mirror if I felt the need to do that type of thing. Our only recourse however at this time is to take notice and soon we will rise above the flack I think.  Thanks for the great blogs Joan and Blessings to you
Rosie

Rosalea

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Wednesday, November 28, 2007 12:17 AM

Before I take the twig out of someone elses eye, I always check to see if I have got a tree trunk in mine. Pettiness usually comes from a place of insecurity.  There is too much one-upmanship (hope that's spelt correctly) going on in the world, in the end it's the petty person who will suffer. If we all had the same opinion or understanding about everything then how could we learn to look at things from different sides.  If you don't want to know someone elses point of view you shouldn't really put your point of view out there.

Trinity Connection

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Wednesday, November 28, 2007 7:42 AM

Heaven knows we all make mistakes in writing and speaking!  Yes, there could be a tree trunk in my eye:-)

As for the bashing, what comes around goes around!  The wheel will bring proper judgement to those petty enough to do it and to those who rise above.  I agree with Donna on the energy and can certainly feel it, it's really forcing so much to the surface now and people are trying to hang on to anything usually resulting in the feelings of insecurity causing them to harm others.  All we can do is rise above the negative energy, keep moving forward, stand on our principles, know everyone has different niches in understanding the Universal Laws and are at different levels, and honor it:-)

Have a great day everyone!  Love and blessings!

Maryann

maryann217

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Wednesday, November 28, 2007 8:13 AM

Feelings of insecurity are normally what causes people to react or overreact to ANYthing that another does. Pointed out faults in others, usually are about issues within the person themselves.
And as a woman educated in Ireland, I may spell some words differently, and spelling may be one of the things that I notice and not care for when its poor spelling, but I would not point if out on a forum, blog or feedback, and I ALWAYS use my own name in my comments and I always did in my feedback.
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: How far should you go.............. @ Wednesday, November 28, 2007 9:19 AM


Geez, where we are "energetically" requires strength and agility. Requires to be able to speak your peace and not be misunderstood, or taken personal when the intention is only of the highest good.

We are not to just sit by and allow everything to be accepted, when we know better.
I am not pointing this at anyone, this is my firm understanding and each day that may change. I am in acceptance to that as well.
Rosie,
What I was speaking about with the "fake names" is advisors coming on blogs creating names to respond on anothers blog. They do this in fear of wanting to respond and not wanting to let others know they are responding,  or wanting to respond to be rude and hurtful.
I know this for a fact when you do that, you create karma for yourself.
I think these blog topics are a way to move energy and grow.
I think that each person who creates one is gaining more than sitting on a forum doing the gossip thing.
I think that when a topic is created and it is moved off course to other issues, that is divine energy working best at hand.
I am grasping not living in fear with my life, more these days.

I like to think that I am 'letting go' of being lost and now I am found.

Maryann, You will make an awesome energy worker here and I am glad to see "new" energy coming in.
Whether you beleive in the shift or not, that is up to you. I am not here to convince anyone, to join aboard my love train *wink*
I am here to be the very best "change" I can be and remain firm in what is truth to me.

I do not see judgement as "judgement" I see beyond that limitation.

I can only speak for me in that department.
Reasoning being, my intention is set not to hurt anyone on any level. So if you are hurt by my words, than I ask you to look deeper
within yourself that brings you to this place of feeling hurt or judged?

If we are to rise to our trueness and be the light that shines through the darkness, than we must stand in truth and not sway or compromise what we know.
My spelling errors happen because my channelings come faster than my fingers type, so to me that is okay. *wink*
Much Love,
Donna





GIFTED11

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