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How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

I Bet you......
think this blog is about you, don't you, don't you.....
Sometimes I write a blog and I get email responses asking if that blog was about them....lol, no it's not ALL about YOU :-)

I do not name names in my blogs either about negative feedback I have gotten ( I think it's inappropriate to name clients names ) or about interactions with other keen advisors or callers. What happens on keen should stay on keen and keen only.

I write about my personal experiences and how I try hard to learn from them...so that I do not have to repeat them with the same person again or another person.... There have been many repeat episodes ( sort of like Summer tv schedule) in my life but honestly not every blog is about you.... honest  :-) If something resembles any interactions you have had either with me or another it is merely a co-inky-dink.... as at times what we are experiencing is also being experienced by many others at the same time....

Joan

Published Thursday, September 17, 2009 6:28 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: I Bet you...... @ Sunday, September 06, 2009 7:52 AM

Hi Joan,
I have learned that not everything is about me (though of course most things are LOL), and so I do not react to everything immediately anymore. You have been a great teacher. Funny blog. I remember the time that I did, in fact, think that something you wrote about romantic relationships was about me, just like my university students think everything I say about "improving work" or "weak papers" is about them. The powers of projection and narcissism :). I try to focus on myself more and seem better off for it.

Fiore

# re: I Bet you...... @ Sunday, September 06, 2009 7:54 AM

BTW, do you know the refrain of that Carly Simon song???

"...I bet you think this song is about you?"

Fiore

# re: I Bet you...... @ Sunday, September 06, 2009 8:01 AM

LOL that was the song I was talking about, honestly, when I wrote this blog. And I am SO glad that you now know that not everything is about YOU :-)
Because it is about ME!! Not YOU!! lol
Nah, but you get what I am saying :-)
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: I Bet you...... @ Sunday, September 06, 2009 11:52 AM

Dear Joan:

This is really a funny blog!  I learned this lesson when I was in college attending psych 101! Every symptom that I found in the text book seemed to fit a symptom I had!  I really  begin to worry about my sanity.  Thanks for sharing with us for this gave me a good giggle this morning.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: I Bet you...... @ Sunday, September 06, 2009 11:59 AM

How dare you think it was about YOU Rosie! Sure there's none of us sane Rosie, what fun would that be ?  
lol
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: I Bet you...... @ Thursday, September 17, 2009 10:51 PM

Joan:

I don't know you personally and I don't normally ask this sort of question from someone I am not familiar with on some form of a meet and confer basis but I feel the need to ask this question due to the increased intensity of your blog posting lately, which I (as well as others around me) have noticed seems to be escalating for some unknown reason.

Are you angry at someone or about something related to Keen (or a client you been dealing with perhaps) and trying to communicate a message by using Keen’s blog system?

Please forgive me if this sounds a bit like I am attacking you (because that is not why I am asking this question), it's just that the energy of your blog postings (from a writer's perspective) has a very passive-aggressive undertone that just doesn’t seem fit for a “light worker” or professional reader.

Susan    

BattingAlone

# re: I Bet you...... @ Saturday, September 19, 2009 3:41 PM

Susan,
From where I stand, you have questioned my professionalism and say I do not fit the stereotype of a *light worker*.  You have inferred that since you are a writer you can judge the tone or intention of the blogs I write. You accuse me of using the blogs to further an agenda against someone.
You ask a question the despite not knowing me you have already opined upon and label my blogs as passive aggressive. And you then tell me this was not an attack on me?
I am not sure anyone would not take what you have written personally.
And no you do not know me, this blog was supposed to be funny, tongue in cheek, sorry you did not see the humor. But if I am being totally honest here your comment floored me,and hurt my feelings ( I may be a reader but I am human)  it was completely out of character from any of your previous intelligent insightful comments on my blogs which is all I know of you thus far. For someone who does not know me you appear to hold a harsh opinion of me. But it is your opinion and I respect your right to have it even if it was formed without knowing me.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: I Bet you...... @ Tuesday, September 22, 2009 3:14 PM

I find this often that people read into our blogs and wonder if we are hiding something or being passive aggressive. I have had people ask me the same thing if I was indirectly directing something at someone. Remember there are no emotions in writing. People assign emotions and feelings to writings. It is a perception based on an assumption when we assume.

justaskdrdonna

# re: I Bet you...... @ Tuesday, September 22, 2009 5:47 PM

In my blogs or life I have never been big on games, I try not to participate in drama and sometimes you are in the middle of someone elses drama before you realize it.
We live in an instant society, an instant fix, a pill for this, a potion for that and no one wants to wait for anything. Whatever did they do when there were no phones and or face book, text messages or email?
People tend to want to project their own stuff onto you, what you write or say or get involved in the drama and negativity of another. People can take what they want to from what was written, said, texted or emailed. We are not always mindful of how we may perceive something differently the more we read it, as we may be reactive on the first read or for the first time we hear something and depending on what mood we are in when we do see and or hear it.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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