I'd rather be....
someone's girlfriend than their secret. Let's face it, no one can treat you badly without your own permission. And when that change in behavior occurs it is quiet, insidious, and not espeically noticable at first..... or you pretend not to notice that it is you calling him/her more often, the plans get delayed or changed more often or better yet they stop calling and yet you keep making excuses to see them, spend time with them and it is you that is doing all of the work...and then you get frustrated and upset and angry...but not always at them, most often you get upset at yourself because you KNOW you are allowing this but you do not know how to turn off the emotional vacuum of need you have become....... and that pulls on their energy and that creates his/her thinking that you are needy....... sheesh, where is that switch?
joan