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I'm sorry if....

I did not get your script for the reading before you called me and I may not have told you what you wanted to hear. But if you only call for two minutes, you cannot expect me to produce an indepth reading in such a short time,

I am sorry if I did not tell you what all the other readers told you when you called them.

I am sorry if you are upset that he/she has not called you yet, but I cannot make them make that call and the more you focus about it, the less likely it will come in the time frame like that kettle waiting to boil...it will take longer if you watch it...

I am sorry that that the reading did not manifest in the precise manner that you expected but real life does not work that way...

I am not sorry that I told you the truth, but if you let go of the need to control the situation without fear, it may well turn out like you did want in the long term.

Wishing you all good, honest, insightful and common sense, REAL LIFE readings. Life is not all fairy tales and laid out for you in a precise manner, YOU have the control, YOU make the choices, YOU have the lessons to learn.... no one can learn them for you...

Joan

 

Published Wednesday, May 28, 2008 9:21 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Wednesday, May 28, 2008 7:49 PM

You could title this, "Things Advisors Think When Getting Squashed in Feedback...."

I enjoyed this...the straight dope from Joan.

Loving it.  Loving you.

Best of love and life to you always,

Heather

The Mathematician

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Wednesday, May 28, 2008 11:54 PM

Great post, Joan and so true but still had a good laugh at The Mathemation's response.  Hilarious.  

So true, though, it happens all the time and am just left, like, 'huh?' 2 minutes? What can I do in that time?  Introduce myself and just maybe get their question out.  And then, "you have one minute left".  More stress.  

I can't work that way either or only rarely.  Every teeny once in awhile I get one simple question and it comes fast from me.  But not generally.  I just look at the phone when this happens and think "oh s.... Actually, it happens several times a day.  Astounding!

I sincerely hope you feel better - just blow off the negative energy..and go onward..

Ancestral Wisdom

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 12:36 AM

Dear Joan:

You are so adept with getting what you need to say out there my friend.  The frustration of this system where Advisor's turn on each other for the sole purpose of causing harm saddens everyone.  Blessings to you.  

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 3:42 AM

I am not upset at negative feedback, we all get that once in a while, and regardless of whether we think we deserve it the person who called experienced the call from that perspective and chose to respond in that way. I did refund the money to the caller and it cost me more than I made on the call since the minumum amount you are allowed to give on a gift certificate is $5 and I only made $3.37. It was a FL call so it also cost me the FL price ( which is not much, but it does add insult to injury :-) I also emailed the person saying that she obviously had not cared for my reading, and wished her luck finding a reader who could meet with her expectations in such a short time frame. We call get negative feedback, it happens but I will not allow it to infleunce the way I read, but it does help when you are getting some kind of feedback during the two minutes and not negatively charged silence...but I had several calls like that yesterday, a lot of new clients and it did cause me to wonder....
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 7:11 AM

Maybe if some of the readers would stop bullsh*ting!!
This is not meant for you Joan, I never had a reading with you. Look at this person called The Mathematician what is up with her and her blogs? This is a reader?????? I never seen her before in the last 2 days she comes on and writes a crazy blog and than goes back and forth to fight with another reader. Nice!!!!!!What the hell is up with these readers? It looks like many of them could use a therapist or medication for themselves. Scary!!!!

Than you have the ass kissing readers who run around with comments such as I agree with you________ Your right! Who the hell cares already!!! Grow up and get a clue!
A bunch of immature babies on here, writing anything to get some kind of attention. ARE YOU IN NEED OF BUSINESS THAT BAD????????Are you lacking in your life that badly???Fake Fake!!! Fake!!!!Unprofessional behaviors, Poor taste,You could be Einstein and because of the way you present yourselves, you look like a plain idiot!!!
I would NOT want anyone here shedding any of their expertise on any of my kids, grandkids.  

Professional I Think NOT~

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 7:47 AM

Dear Joan;

You know I personally enjoyed seeing Mathematician returning to blogging on Keen as she has been absent for some time.  I don't blame her at all for getting a little miffed when the other Advisor continued to insult her and her blog.  I would hope we would start looking at those who claim to be so "spiritual" and so much more qualified than others to judge and realize that some people are not going to take that crap anymore.  It is bad enough they slam us with negative feedback so they can ruin other advisors business but then to have someone blame you for defending yourself and your blog is just not fair.  Perhaps we all should visit the other Advisor's webpage and observe that it looks like she is new to Keen and is already trying to start controversy.  We should not judge anyone and our blogs should be what we want them to be.  Well enough of my 2 cents worth but it made me just a tad bit riled to see Heather slammed because of a rude Advisor that took it upon herself to judge what or who should be blogging.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 8:46 AM

Thank you for your comments Professional I Think NOT~. However I would not agree that all readers who write blogs are fake, writing ability or expressing oneself in a way contrary to your beliefs does not make them a fake in anyway. And what is a fake reader? someone who's predictions do not ALL come true? One cannot paint with such broad strokes in such a *service industry* Having said that I do agree that some blogs have scream for attention and while some may think that some of mine do, that was certainly not my *intention* when I wrote them. Innacuracy does not mean they are *fakes* I had some readings in my time, and I could have blasted many a reader but chose not because they were fellow readers and quite frankly I was was a difficult client which I am sure can make us harder to read for, people who are closed off can be hard to read as can angry callers.
Yet people I know had very positive readings with those same readers....who is to say?? And I do agree that some readers after I had personally read their blogs have come the  the conclusion that I would not call them either.

Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 9:00 AM

Rosie I was a little perturbed reading the responses on that blog, and having read them several times am still left shaking my head. Sounds as if there is more behind yet I am left wondering what it is...and I am not willing to put my big toe in to find out.
Having said that, there are many fine readers on here, and since we all work in different ways to get our information, I am more than happy to admit I am human, have my failings and I will not always be right. But having gone through what I did for many years, I have the utmost respect and empathy for ANYONE who calls me.
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Friday, May 30, 2008 9:39 PM

Please read ny blog on netiquette!

The Mind Shift

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Friday, May 30, 2008 9:48 PM

There is a world of difference between the way The Mathematician expresses her concepts and ideas and her brillant litera
littery efforts, and yours.

Maybe what you can't quite put your big toe on is a deeper meaning behind the beautiflly stated words?  In which case, why not open up a discussion for cliarification instead of the negative defensive BS.

I for one appreciate The Mathematician's witty, chatty, brillant style.  Give us more, Mathie!

The Mind Shift

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Saturday, May 31, 2008 6:42 AM

If you think that I was being insulting to the Mathematicians blogs then you are very sadly mistaken. I have and continue to have always enjoyed her blog and IF you read my comments on her blog welcoming her back you would KNOW that instead of attacking me and my writing style and telling me to read your blog on netiquette,  You then probably need to refer to another one of what you term my badly written blogs about readers always taking what was written the wrong way, because they lack the ability to hear tone, see facial expressions etc...The big toe comment was referring to the negative disparaging comments made on Maths blog that she responded to and I was stating that I was not going to get involved in the hijacking of anothers blog, I do not feel that kind of drama is necessary.
There is no defensive bs on my blog, I state my opinions which you very obviously do not agree with as is your choice. I did not care for the rude comments directed at Math, the ridiculous petty, one line comments repeated over and over and felt there was no need for clarification as I felt the person who wrote them might simply be incapable of clarification.  However I do not feel the need to refer to your writing, and or your response as badly written, I simply do not agree with your comments. And read  the netiquette blog that you posted again yourself, you broke some of the rules insulting my writing efforts....
:-)
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Saturday, May 31, 2008 9:59 AM

Joan:  my bad.  I was refering to Professional's comments, not yours. I should have addressed my comment specifically to her.  As for your writing style, I never said your's was bad.  I only stated that there was a world of difference between the styles, which is true.  But again, I was referring to Professional's comments, not yours.  Re-read her comments re Mathie. I simply said that if she didn't understand, why not ask for clarification instead of putting Mathie down.

If you feel that my blog was poorly written on Netiquette, I'm sorry, but it was a direct excerpt from a published author(whom I gave credit to at the beginning of the blog), not my words.

So, if I offended you inadvertntly, my apologies.

The Mind Shift

# re: I'm sorry if.... @ Saturday, May 31, 2008 1:37 PM

I did not think or say your blog was badly written, I was saying that I did not insult you, what you wrote but did not agree with it. That was truly all I meant in my comment. It really looked as if you said my blog was badly written and I did take offense, and wondered where that came from when I read it?? You did say there was a world of difference between her brilliant literary efforts and mine. You did say the difference between hers and mine was defensive bs which did offend to be honest, I felt that was a rather strong way to phrase things and it did hurt me.
The blog etiquette was a subject that I touched upon in other blogs of mine referring to the fact that things written can be taken wrongly since they do not have the benefit of the tone, and or facial expressions to help in translating the *tone* of the post and what was meant, it can and is frequently taken wrongly. I enjoyed your blog about the netiquette and apologies accepted.

joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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