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How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

Intention..............

Can one really judge the *intention* of anothers mean or silly remark?

Can one really say for sure that the *hurtful* words or deed, or lack thereof was specifically aimed and or targeted at us?

Can one really KNOW that the person meant to hurt us?

Sorry some people are simply stupid and thoughtless and nothing bad was meant....or intended....

 

joan

 

Published Sunday, May 25, 2008 8:27 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: Intention.............. @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 5:42 PM

very interesting article thank you for posting

Ancestor of Light

# re: Intention.............. @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 6:11 PM

Dear Joan:

"Intention" is the key word here and that is what we should analyze is the intent behind the words. So many time things are taken out of context from another and we read our own emotions into the text or spoken word when in fact the intent was initially meant just to soothe us or help us cope.  When I lost my daughter I know that the well meaning words of others sometimes were like knives through my heart.  The worst thing was when the priest told us at the funeral that God needed her more than we did.  I just about went ballistic over that but kept my cool and realized that he was a gracious man and was really only trying to soothe us and help us accept. Reading what the other person's intent was is difficult however and it does sometime mean stepping back and thoroughly looking at the reasons.

Good blog and very interesting.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: Intention.............. @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 6:22 PM

Rosie, some people are thoughtless and stupidly do and say things that hurt, however we are only being egotistical when we think that all the negativity was intentionally directed at us...we are not normally the main focus of others when they forget us, and or do or say things that really hurt us...
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Intention.............. @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 8:46 PM

One cannot and should not complain about drama when one is creating so much of it oneself...... and there is a lot of it about
:-)
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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