Interesting Article....from yahoo...
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/87049/five-biggest-excuses-that-ruin-your-dating-life/;_ylc=X3oDMTRpdWJnbjBhBF9TAzI3MTYxNDkEX3MDMjAyMzcyOTkzMQRrA0ZpdmUgQmlnZ2VzdCBFeGN1c2VzIFRoYXQgUnVpbiBZb3VyIERhdGluZyBMaWZlBHNlYwNmcF90b2RheQRzbGsDZ%20l2ZS1iaWdnZXN0LWV4Y3VzZXMtdGhhdC1ydWluLXlvdXItZGF0aW5nLWxpZmUEenoDYWJj
There are many thoughts that limit us. And we make excuses all the time as to why one thing or another is not happening or has not happened, or why we cannot or should not do one thing as opposed to another because it might not be how others see how things should or could be....I describe it as the other person not having your script as to how YOU think things should be. They may not be able to go the same speed limit as you, they may want a slow down in a rest stop...and IF we want them to accept and respect what WE want, so sometimes negotiation is key....Can both of your needs be met ? it is possible....
What we need to learn is to ACCEPT what IS; rather than what you would like it to be.
Acceptance is key here. There are time when we limit ourselves by the power of our thoughts where we place limitations on ourselves. Making statements such as *I can never get over this man/woman* leaves no room for healing and moving past a relationship that is possibly not in our best interest, which I know from experience can be a difficult thing to do but you are building your own road block IF those are the kinds of statements that you are making...
Try not to get in your own way by speaking out loud or thinking thoughts that can and will stand in the way of your own emotional progress, fear is really a false emotion that we allow so much power to that it severely limits us in so many ways...
When we fear we push for answers that may not be available. We may try to manipulate and control the situation by passive agressive behavior. We may stalk the object of our affection, call their home phones and hang up, call excessively, text continously, and continue to do so even when they do not respond.... When someone does not call you, regardless of whether their words are saying, their actions are saying I am not ready to talk to you.
Sometimes we need to just let it go so that the situation can work itself out rather than injecting our fear and our out of control emotions into a situation that will not resolve with that kind of intense frantic energy inflicted into it.....
Joan